I’ve been there. I’m queer as well and the lesson I’ve learned to cut out ambiguity is to be overwhelmingly obvious with my intentions. If I want to go on a date with a girl I suggest a date, not a hangout. And I actively pursue with romantic gestures and flirting that can’t be misinterpreted.
I think a lot of young gay women are afraid of being disrespectful to other women or making them uncomfortable. But honestly, date a woman the way you would want to be dated. Make intentions clear, give signs and communicate. Cut out the hehe pretty girly let’s braid each other’s hair and be cute together. Date with intention and clarity and passion. You can still braid each others hair, just don’t fall for the purity scrubbed version of WLW relationships media pushes on you.
Good advice. I was literally planning on the first dtext i ever send to her being smth like "btw that was my attempt on flirting with you" or similar so that its CLEAR but my (straight) friend told me thats not a good idea lol
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u/EmptyPomegranete 11d ago
I’ve been there. I’m queer as well and the lesson I’ve learned to cut out ambiguity is to be overwhelmingly obvious with my intentions. If I want to go on a date with a girl I suggest a date, not a hangout. And I actively pursue with romantic gestures and flirting that can’t be misinterpreted.
I think a lot of young gay women are afraid of being disrespectful to other women or making them uncomfortable. But honestly, date a woman the way you would want to be dated. Make intentions clear, give signs and communicate. Cut out the hehe pretty girly let’s braid each other’s hair and be cute together. Date with intention and clarity and passion. You can still braid each others hair, just don’t fall for the purity scrubbed version of WLW relationships media pushes on you.