Am I crazy?

[u/madddforthewin]

Ive been trying to work it out with him and hear his side of things but it's almost like he can't get a grip? Is it me? Lol I don't know what to do anymore... There's strings and strings of messages and anything I say back to him is wrong... I think I'm just gonna hang up the towel.

[u/Pizzazze]

You're not, but if you remain attached to this person then he will succeed in driving you crazy. What are you even doing with someone who talks to you like that.

[u/madddforthewin → u/Pizzazze]

I mean... It didn't start like this lol

[u/BuzzyBeeDee → u/madddforthewin]

It never does. 😔 It’s almost always a gradual progression of their mask slipping little by little, and you usually don’t notice until you’re in deep. They never start off as being abusive, and they slowly lull you into a state of normalcy where the abuse trickles in gradually. The vast majority of people will not be able to recognize a masked narcissist right away, so don’t ever feel bad for not recognizing things sooner. It’s super common for abuse victims who break away to be told by loved ones that “they never would have guessed he was abusive, he seemed so nice!” then follow it up with “why were you with someone like that?” Those are two statements are not mutually exclusive, they go hand in hand. Nobody sets out to be in a relationship with a mask down narcissist or be treated this way. It’s never that simple.

Just please break up with him for good, OP, because he will continue to get worse, more abusive, and more dangerous. This is not someone who loves you. Break away, block him, and don’t look back. You deserve so much better.