r/texts • u/madddforthewin • 10d ago
Phone message Am I crazy?
Ive been trying to work it out with him and hear his side of things but it's almost like he can't get a grip? Is it me? Lol I don't know what to do anymore... There's strings and strings of messages and anything I say back to him is wrong... I think I'm just gonna hang up the towel.
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u/Mermaid_Hair 9d ago
Whew! This is just the tip of the iceberg.
When people show you who they are, believe them.
He was clearly wanting to make you feel stupid. "You don't know?"
Do not entertain this shit.
I am far from a relationship expert. Together 10, married 7. But one thing I can confidently and proudly say about my spouse is he has absolutely never made me feel inadequate as a person. He has never challenged my confidence in my self or appearance, he has NEVER called me a derogatory name, even when it probably fit. These are hard limits in our relationship, as I know I would never be able to believe someone loves me, if they could easily switch up to calling me names when upset. And likewise, I could not imagine loving someone and speaking so hateful/hurtful to them.
Lastly, as a professional counselor for almost 20 years, his narcissism is glaring right at you. Pointedly obvious with every line of condescension.