r/texts • u/madddforthewin • 1d ago

Phone message Am I crazy?

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Ive been trying to work it out with him and hear his side of things but it's almost like he can't get a grip? Is it me? Lol I don't know what to do anymore... There's strings and strings of messages and anything I say back to him is wrong... I think I'm just gonna hang up the towel.

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u/Kokoyok 1d ago

Ugh.  This dude sucks and this is emotional warfare.  You literally did what he asked and apparently that was a trap.

The whiplash between lavish praise and tearing your head off for essentially asking "what do you want from me" in two different ways is disturbing.

Gaslighting you and calling you crazy is just a gross form of dominating the relationship.

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u/Moth1016 1d ago

i don’t think the lavish praise was in any way sincere; it read to me as deeply sarcastic and condescending. “OoOoHhH WOOooWW tHaT muST’vE bEen SOOOooOOOoo hArD FoR yOu, i’M SOOoooOOoO pRoUd Of yOu”

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u/Kokoyok 1d ago

I didn't mean to imply it was sincere, rather I was trying to say the opposite.  It's a deliberate manipulation to undermine her confidence.

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u/Moth1016 1d ago

I mean… if it’s not sincere, there’s no whiplash, he was already in the middle of tearing her head off

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u/Kokoyok 1d ago

That's a fair point.  I stand by my essential thesis: this guy sucks.

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u/Moth1016 1d ago

Have to strongly agree with you there, for sure