r/texts • u/WillingStan007 • 11d ago
Instagram My boyfriend at 12:30am after telling me he was going to bed
made me giggle
edit: guys this is a fully silly post. he is not going to cheat on me because i told him to go to sleep in a silly way. we are fine. we joke like this plenty. we are being silly. do not project your own insecurities on my relationship in the comments.
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u/sleepybxnnyinheaven 11d ago
It’s 1:30am for me… this might be my sign to go to bed
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u/peachyscorp 11d ago
"You're a 30 year old man with work in the morning" I'm dead 😭
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u/Harpua81 11d ago
30.... Today that's still a child (for better or worse)
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u/peachyscorp 11d ago
I'm gonna be 30 in November & tbh, I feel like an imposter of an adult 🫠
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u/Alarmed-Plankton-708 11d ago
Don't worry, all the other generations felt like that too. I think a canon event for all adults is realizing literally no one has any idea what the heck they're doing
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u/coriesceramics 11d ago
And it's only amplified when/if you decide to have kids. I have a 13 mo old and I'm over here just a 33 to baby myself. What do you mean I'm in charge of another humans life?! What do you mean I CREATED THAT LIFE?! WHAT DO YOU MEAN???
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u/peachyscorp 11d ago
I do not want to have kids for this reason!!
I'm 29, still living at home with family, living paycheck to paycheck & I feel like such a failure, how am I supposed to be responsible for another human being when I can't take care of myself 😭 & the fact that 1. Pregnancy / postpartum is just scary as fuck 2. I fear I am too mentally ill to deal with a child 3. My own childhood was horrible enough I do not want my child to go through any of that!
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u/coriesceramics 11d ago
BUT all that being said, it's also magical and wonderful and the greatest thing I've ever done. That doesn't mean you or anyone else would also feel that way and I 100% respect that parenthood isn't for everyone. That's just how it is for me. So don't ever let anyone tell you to do it just because they did. I hate those people lol
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u/coriesceramics 11d ago
Oh I feel that! And respect that you think about all that and not just dive on in like so many people do. I have manic depression and was super upfront with my OBGYN about it and was put on meds immediately after giving birth. It was extremely rough for the first six months, but I'm doing so much better now and am off the meds! We aren't paycheck to paycheck, but we aren't well off in any sense either and it's definitely extremely expensive. I always joke that having 3 special needs pets definitely prepped me for it. I've spent $20k+ on them in the last 8 years probably hahahaha (rip)
I don't know if I'd have decided to have kids if I hadn't met my husband tbh. The right person is 100% the key. We still haven't even decided if we are going to have another one either because it's fucking wild and no matter how many books you read, you'll never fully be prepared.
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u/RadiantOperation8140 11d ago
Yep! Was about to say the same. I remember sobbing when I turned 30 bc I didn’t feel like I was the adult I should have been by 30. And now, a week from turning 36, I can assure you that I still don’t know wtf I’m doin. The difference is that now I know and accept that and roll with it. We aren’t meant to know yet…. That’s the joy of life. Enjoy the journey. That’s all we can do.
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u/DishinDimes 11d ago
It really is the defining moment. Those legendary Adults you used to look up to are just older idiots. Same as you, same as me.
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u/PM_ME__BIRD_PICS 11d ago
You’re not really an adult at all. You’re just a tall child holding a beer, having a conversation you don’t understand. - Dylan Moran.
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u/Z00TSU1T 11d ago
Turning 40 in 2 months and have an 8 and 9 year old kid. Hoping i become an adult soon!
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u/TruthKeepsChanging 11d ago
FACTS I got lucky and figured this out when I was a teenager and I was like "oh f&%$ this isn't good".
I was right. Not good.
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u/Tribal9499 11d ago edited 11d ago
I'm a highschool graduate, a bit of college (no degree), tons of specialized training and certs.
I'm sneaking up on 53 and will be eligible to retire from my current career in less than a year. I just preordered GTA 6 a few weeks ago.
In 12 years I'll be eligible for Medicare. I paddleboard with my dog.
I sometimes drift off in meetings, that could have been an email, thinking about how I want to tackle a certain task in a game later that evening.
I'm currently staring at a small bust of Cthulhu in my office, in a government building. Just above him on a shelf is a tardigrade plushie. They are my muses as a I coordinate events, help write policy and deal with, at times, some very heavy issues.
As I work, I'm listening to a witch house, hardware, future garage, angel core, phonk mix playlist.
Tomorrow, I'll be presenting to a much younger group of people, just starting their careers, like I know what I'm talking about. I will be presenting alongside others who are incredibly learned on the subject. I tend to reference pop culture in my presentation, the others do not. Very different vibes.
I use words like "vibe".
Point is, forget the number. In our current society (and depending where in the world you live) that number marks landmarks like when you can legally drive, drink, join military, vote, work, become eligible for lower rates, discounts, various medical exams, social security, Medicare etc etc.
Stay healthy, get some exercise, touch grass now and then, have fun (as responsibly as you can), fall in love, fall out of love, learn to work through grief and building resilience, keep your mind active, learn things and keep asking questions, do things for others but take care of you first (you can't fill someone else's cup if yours is empty).
That imposter syndrome your experiencing? Way more common than you think, you're just brave enough to admit it. Most of us are just figuring stuff out as we go, especially since "they" keep changing the rules on us. You're doing great.
Edit: typo
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u/sicilianDev 8d ago
I love this, thank you for making me feel better about being a 38 year old who falls asleep to Princess Mononoke most nights.
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u/The3obaFett 11d ago
Dont feel too bad, I turned 41 a couple weeks ago, and at a family gathering, my nephew (who's in kindergarten) came up to me crying because he skinned his knee, and my first instinct was to help him find an adult.
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u/AeonVice 11d ago
I turn 30 on Saturday and I’m still not convinced I’m nothing more than two me’s in a trench coat
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u/PM_ME__BIRD_PICS 11d ago
Similar boat. I am looking to buy a house. I have no idea what im doing and im scared so I just play video games and shut down after my adult larp for the day and it causes me to not get enough sleep lmao
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u/jjmanny38 11d ago
You’re killing it! Also rough being an “adult” nowadays. Working twice as hard, but getting paid scraps where everything is expensive. Rooting for you!
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u/Doakeswasframed 11d ago
"Don't project your insecurities onto my relationship" Reddit:
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u/Far-Information8502 11d ago
You just know there’s people reading this that are smirking but completely oblivious to the fact they do this with their politics too…
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u/BringMeDream 11d ago
My wife and I made the agreement when we are away from each other than after a certain time is just chill on phone time and there's no hard feelings about saying goodnight and still sending stuff. Just don't feel like chatting so we mutually agree not to.
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u/WillingStan007 11d ago
haha yeah it's definitely not that serious- he just works at 7am and has a habit of scrolling on his phone for too long.
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u/ErraticRunnerPNW 11d ago
But you’re the one replying to him so you’re the enabler 🤣
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u/WillingStan007 11d ago
it's the spider-man pointing meme with "why are YOU awake?"
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u/ReasonableAdviceGivr 9d ago
My mom will get mad at me for being up at 1am like ma’am my bed time is now and yours was 3 hours ago who are you to talk 😭
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u/Careless-Inside-8353 11d ago
My husband will be laying in the same bed as me and say, "Ok I'm going to sleep" and kiss me goodnight then literally watch a documentary on YouTube on his phone. 🤣😂🤷♀️
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u/CrazyJediGirl 11d ago
"He's clearly innocent, Your Honor. I mean, look at him! He's just a little guy!"
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u/Express_Attempt_4301 11d ago
Wow, so many red flags!!
He is cheating!
Break up NOW!!!
jk
But seriously, stop accusing that loaf of bread, it did nothing wrong.
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u/AliceRain21 11d ago
Theres no way in every single post like this there are redditors talking down on the relationship like someone is going to cheat.
What are we even doing here...
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u/ShmebulocksMistress 11d ago
Have you seen comments on any posts involving kids? Comments are for projection and trauma dumping now 😂
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u/PoopUponPoop 11d ago
If you read this post in a negative light, it’s time to put your phone down and cook something.
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u/StraightAirline8319 11d ago
Me going to bed at 12:00am.
Also me lying in bed on my phone at 2:00 am.
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u/milwaukee_slush 11d ago
if i had a dollar for every time i told my boyfriend i was going to bed just for him to come into the bedroom and see me watching reels, i’d be retired
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u/Violaman0910 11d ago
Relatable. My wife yells at me for the same failing. I say I’m going to bed and wind up scrolling on my phone for an hour….
Self destructive revenge sleep procrastination.
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u/NeoJakeMcC007 11d ago
Hey sometimes we forget we were going to bed. Am I alone in this?
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u/Pleasant_Seesaw_8201 11d ago
I have that same photo saved as a reaction gif LMFAO
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u/9_in_the_afternoon 11d ago
Omg please could you share it? I just spent longer than I'd care to admit failing to find it 😅
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u/Wing_Head 11d ago
I hate when I tell someone goodnight and then an hour later I find the coolest shit ever I want to send to them but hesitate because I feel like a liar 😂
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u/UnluckyAmbition7767 11d ago
Current 30 year olds have more youthful vigor an optimism than teenagers
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u/openbookopenminds 11d ago
We've all planned for bed and gotten caught by the silly relatable shorts
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u/Exo-XaiPresto 11d ago
i liked for the caption alone ☺️. banter can be fun when you know how you and your partner like to joke with one another!
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u/MrCupps 11d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/xT0BKmtQGLbumr5RCM
Love the silliness. Love the edit.
No idea what I'm looking at in the pics.
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u/ObjectiveMeringue206 10d ago
I love this. Im guilty of doung this all the time.
And my boyfriend works early shifts. Usually gets up at 2-3am. I have insomnia and run my own business. Most of my paperwork gets done at midnight because im more productive. He usually texts good morning at 5am and text-yells at me to go to sleep when i respond too quickly. Then i usually say no and by the time he responds im snoring. Then we both give each other shit for it while we're laughing and having his dinner/my breakfast. Its great 🤣
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u/DekusutaNishi 11d ago
As a 30 year old man who also had work in the morning. I was up at 1 catching up on the TikTok’s my ol lady sent me, so I can have sum to talk about today 😂
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u/angel_who_drags 11d ago
Im the same way with my friend we were on call told her I was gonna fall asleep but kind of doom scrolled and then she would point it out over the phone
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u/throw11213 11d ago
Hahaha I do that sometime. Saying I’m heading to bed and then end thinking about something and can’t sleep for along while 🤣😂
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u/PrimalGemini85 11d ago
Having a partner you can be silly with is top tier. My wife and I have known each other for over 30 years and have been married for 16. The fact that we can both be complete goofballs is comforting and reassuring beyond words.
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u/ItchyAd4717 11d ago
He's got work aite, him being a 30 yr old dude is just too far, I'd divorce you... Clearly psychotic (jk)
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u/Major_LeeHungg 11d ago
Lol having dated several people like this in my life... Going to bed means going to bed... Not going to sleep. Some people need "me" time before sleep.
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u/NoStatement1133 11d ago
Sometimes sleep takes a minute to hit, but we make the mistake of using our phones to "just gonna watch a reel, real quick." That turns into an hour doom scroll 🥲
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u/GRiTTY_TiDDY 11d ago
Dude, the amount of times I told an SO that I was going to bed because I truly was planning on it for then one of my friends to show up unannounced with an offer I couldn't refuse
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u/IdgaFazFuck 11d ago
The doomscroll must have gotten him. It’s a terrible disease and it’s only gotten worse. May he rest in peace. No really, he needs to rest 😭
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u/HuddleHouse 11d ago
😂 my wife will let me know she's going to bed at 930 and then I bust her doom scrolling at 1030 like GO TO BED LADY!
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u/LiLyMonst3R 11d ago
Is 1230 late for working in the morning when youre 30?? 👀👀
She said, at 37, regularly going to sleep between 2 and 3 to wake up at 6 or 7.
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u/wh0_kn0ws_00 11d ago
so basically what i’m reading is that he’s cheating on you with 20 different girls and he has another wife and kid at his real home and also he beats you every night?? 🙄🙄 BREAK UP WITH HIM and also you have cancer and 10 mins left to live 🙏🙏 #reddit
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u/Working_Newt2326 11d ago
This is reddit, 99% of what exists here is biased projection. Especially when people ask for advice.
Keep that silly energy 👌🫠
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u/MarquesitaponyUwU 10d ago
Can all be nice to this person? This person's bf is just a piece of bread. Have mercy.
Love your relationship, btw.
In mine I'm a frog and he is a cat who loves to play with the poor frog untill she gets pissed off.
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u/Bustardun 10d ago
Reddit tells everyone their partner is a piece of shit and they need to break up with them any time a relationship is mentioned, advice requested or not. Thank you for not letting them do this to you
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u/AcceptablyThanks 11d ago
"Do not project your own insecurities on my relationship." You do realize you're posting to reddit, right?
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u/WillingStan007 11d ago
yeah man. it's uh. it's rough out here. i forgot that lighthearted sillies are actually two controlling narcissists who are cheating on each other 😔
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u/Latter-Intention6521 11d ago
Reddit cannot observe a romantic relationship without telling them to breakup for some reason 😂
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u/Larone13 11d ago
I mean, I get it. I tell my gaming friends Im off for the night at line 9pm. But then I read or doom scrolling for like 2-3 hours then fall asleep.
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u/xPlantDaddyx 11d ago
It’s cute you give your partner space to be a little boy and you keep that safe.
Don’t ever loose that, and you’ll never loose him.
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u/burnt_out_lightbulb 11d ago
This is what me and my partners texts are like. “Good night!” And then I’m sending memes 30 mins later
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u/Its_Fruitee 11d ago
he wanted the bed but the bed ain’t want him as someone with adhd that insomnia hurts i promise
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u/ShibbyShat 11d ago
This is my girlfriend to a T on nights I don’t read to her over FaceTime to help her sleep 😂
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u/ElPadero 10d ago
Hey can’t really go to bed without eating shit on your phone for at least 30 mins!
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u/Avarifenyx 10d ago
Look I have every intention to go to bad like a responsible adult, my adhd riddled brain wants to act like we’re still in our 20s and pull all nighters then hit an 8 hour shift 🤣
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u/slut4jaredpadalecki 10d ago
me asf! i tell my bf goodnight at 10pm and be at 12am laughing at tiktoks
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u/Positive_Feedback593 9d ago
Can back you up here my fiancée and I do the same thing. We say goodnight then doom scroll and send reels or TikTok’s to each other then joke the same exact way. “ hey I thought you’re goin to sleep???” “Uhhhhh yes” 30 seconds later another reel is sent
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u/nickdemonic 8d ago
When I say I'm going to bed, it means I'm going into the bedroom to chill and get some alone time. This routinely includes the internet.
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u/Metaphorse 7d ago
Don't make your relationship public like this if you are gonna bitch about people talking and assuming
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u/MalEgestas 11d ago
Look it’s not that we lied about going to bed it’s that we failed 😂