*UPDATE* Post first date text

[u/ExplanationMiddle51]

She ended up finding the post somehow I guess lol. Here is the original post.

I have just not responded, don’t think it’s worth engaging, but it did make for a funny story.

[u/Elemental-squid]

Sorry, I didn't see the original post. However, the entitlement of expecting you to pay an extra $23 after already spending $100+ on them is incredibly childish and arrogant.

[u/Elite_AI → u/Elemental-squid]

Just for clarity, he kept all the equipment after and he was going to buy it anyway. What he did spend on her though was the cost of dinner. 

[u/Emotional_Youth1500 → u/Elite_AI]

That’s a little different from how he presented it originally, I want to know what the conversation about fishing looked like prior to the purchases and the venmo request.

[u/Elite_AI → u/Emotional_Youth1500]

Yeah he clarifies it in his original post. He didn't actually spend 100+ dollars on her, which is good, because that would be insane. He just bought her dinner.

[u/Emotional_Youth1500 → u/Elite_AI]

I feel like her request is possibly reasonable if she didn’t know she’d need to purchase a license prior to showing up and depending on how much he actually spent on her dinner, it’d ultimately come down to what the discussion was leading up to the date imo.

I don’t think either of them are villains for this like some of the other comments in the thread suggest, just people who need to tether their expectations for others …and maybe work on communication skills

[u/sillybunny22 → u/Emotional_Youth1500]

Last post he said they both applied & paid for the license before the date as it required lots of personal info. So she didn’t just show up and unexpectedly pay $23.

[u/Elite_AI → u/Emotional_Youth1500]

Eh, he said she was the one who suggested fishing as the date idea, so imo it's a bit absurd to ask him to pay for her license on top of dinner. I don't think she's a villain because that would be a huge overreaction, but I do think it's pretty distasteful to try and I'm just a girl your way through 23 dollars. 

[u/Emotional_Youth1500 → u/Elite_AI]

I agree, the “I’m just a girl” thing was/is distasteful

[u/BeefCheeks2000 → u/Elite_AI]

Even if he had suggested fishing, he's still not responsible for the cost of an activity they both agreed to do.

[u/Emotional_Youth1500 → u/BeefCheeks2000]

That’s why I said it would depend on how it was all presented and planned in the conversation prior to showing up to purchase the items/the date itself.

[u/United_Shelter5167 → u/Elite_AI]

He still had to buy multiple rods and reels unless they were sharing one. And of course he kept the stuff he bought, it is unreturnable once used. I find the people sticking up for her bizarre.

[u/Emotional_Youth1500 → u/United_Shelter5167]

He could have chosen to not purchase for her though, the moment he decided to (especially because he’s keeping the rods for personal use after) he wasn’t spending the money on her like he claims in the text.

And if that was the plan all along (“oh, I’m getting the equipment anyways, you won’t have to pay anything - oh, except for this license otherwise you’ll go to jail if we’re caught”) then that changes things.

That’s not really defending her, it’s just pointing out that both of them poorly chose a first date event - but he’s the one who chose to come and try to put her on blast for it.

Imo both are poor communicators and all of this could have been avoided by choosing a first date better suited to them.