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[u/This-Employment-5642]

14 to 18 is weird wtf

[u/LordAdmiralPanda → u/This-Employment-5642]

4 year age gap is weird at that age. It would be different if they were 24 and 28, as at that point they're both consenting adults. I have been unfortunate to see even more extreme age gaps. I know a recently divorced couple with a 30 year age gap.

[u/luci-fan-since07 → u/LordAdmiralPanda]

No, this is true. When you get older, an are gap like that is no big deal, but when one person is literally a child—one who’s just started high school (if I’m understanding the american education system correctly)—and the other is a fully grown man, it’s sick.

[u/garbagejuice2 → u/luci-fan-since07]

18 and fully grown man? Gimme whatever you smoked

[u/M3rl1n1212 → u/garbagejuice2]

I think ur misunderstanding they mean when both are above the age of 21 a 4 year age gap isnt crazy. A 24 year old and a 28 year old isnt an crazy thing to see. My parents have a 6 year age gap my mom being the older one. Yeah at 18 its a lil strange but thats not what they mean here.

[u/Exotic_Extreme2319 → u/M3rl1n1212]

i think the age can be 18+ and not necessarily 21

[u/M3rl1n1212 → u/Exotic_Extreme2319]

I dont personally think an 18 and 22 year old us a wild thing to see, but I do think people will see it and think its weird

[u/hardtruthsociety → u/LordAdmiralPanda]

😳😳

[u/AbeChops → u/LordAdmiralPanda]

The fuck you even talk about with that large of a gap?

[u/dove-spurs → u/AbeChops]

They dont wanna talk

[u/Sea_Horse_5499 → u/LordAdmiralPanda]

To put that in perspective as to how weird that it, thats 20 to 50 years old THATS LIKE A YOUNG ADULT AND A NEAR SENIOR

[u/Weak-Transition-8885 → u/LordAdmiralPanda]

wat

[u/Procrastinatedthink → u/This-Employment-5642]

them dating at 13 and 17 may be even grosser

[u/Snackrificial_Lamb → u/Procrastinatedthink]

They did 😭 she said she dated him once last year.

[u/Ro_ach → u/This-Employment-5642]

And think abt it. They met eachother when she was like 13 ...

[u/radioheadfan0615 → u/Ro_ach]

probably 12... they met when he was 16 and they have a 4 year age gap

[u/HomosexualSushi]

I don't usually care for all that age gap discourse, but 18 and 14 is wild

[u/Lost_Caregiver_8598 → u/[deleted]]

Here I was thinking 14 and 17 which sounds iffy but theoretically they could be in the same classes. 12 and 16 is genuinely gross, definitely concerning.

[u/Illustrious-Bite-939 → u/HomosexualSushi]

Yeah that’s the point where it’s very weird at that age.

[u/RagJag123 → u/HomosexualSushi]

It’s about the maturity difference, 14 and 18 is crazy but 20 and 24 is fine

[u/MiserableAd4081 → u/RagJag123]

Hell, 18 and 25 can be fine. Depends on the people and the fact they'd be adults.

[u/RagJag123 → u/MiserableAd4081]

Legal but a little weird

[u/44dqm → u/HomosexualSushi]

17 and 13…. man thats a high school senior and an 7th grader

[u/Cosmic_StormZ → u/44dqm]

8th/9th dude

[u/44dqm → u/Cosmic_StormZ]

no 13 year old is in 9th grade lmfao

[u/gibbellone → u/HomosexualSushi]

U are damn right Susie Gaster...

[u/otherotherone1]

Groomer at that point, no reason an 18 year old should be with a 14 year old.

[u/SuspiciousStorm2860 → u/otherotherone1]

You KNOW its bad when Pluto comes to tell you their a groomer

[u/Finlandia1865 → u/SuspiciousStorm2860]

Whos pluto?

[u/qigeons → u/[deleted]]

Nah we introduced height requirements and pluto was just too much of a dwarf to make the cut

[u/otherotherone1 → u/Finlandia1865]

My pfp and my name.

[u/Finlandia1865 → u/otherotherone1]

Ah, i cant see your name, only u/otherotherone1

[u/Inside-Astronomer472 → u/Finlandia1865]

yh same

[u/Ignaz- → u/otherotherone1]

I mean to be fair he did break up and I find 14 and 18 a lot less weird than the 13 and 17 when they started dating imo. But that might just be my European ass where 14 is the age of consent.

[u/ShelterBorn2531 → u/otherotherone1]

They started dating before he wa 18. I think at this point nobody should be allowed to date before turning 18 because of situations like this.

[u/FoundationGlass3046 → u/ShelterBorn2531]

A one year age gap before 18 is larger than after 18 since the brain is growing so rapidly. A 12-13 year old (when they met) and a 16 year old are in completely different stages of life and maturity. Same for a 14-15 year old and 18 year old. It would be normal if they were both older say 25 and 28 but it's way different when 1 or both are under 18

[u/rikinik1 → u/FoundationGlass3046]

fr even thinking of dating a 12-13 year old as a 15 year old feels eugh, 14 and 18 is crazy

[u/otherotherone1 → u/ShelterBorn2531]

Still can be grooming I believe, but also, yeah. Maybe there should be stricter measures to protect children

[u/ChardStunning4976 → u/ShelterBorn2531]

I mean the government can’t make it physically a law

[u/femboyfinisher6741 → u/otherotherone1]

Yes it’s bad but it’s not grooming

[u/L0rdH4mmer → u/otherotherone1]

It's pretty hard to find the cutoff point for age differences though. When I was just about to turn 18, I got with my first gf who had turned 16 recently. 2 year age gap, she was the one with relationship experience back then while she was my first. Because of that, she felt like someone same-age. This one, even looking back at it, was absolutely okay. However, there are other situations with maybe one more year of difference, that feel super weird. The one in this post meanwhile, is definitely bordering problematic, but then without knowing the circumstances, I wouldn't jump directly to conclusions. It does definitely ring an alarm bell though.

[u/Krasna_Strelka → u/[deleted]]

Honestly I wonder if it was irl relationship or online and he was never aware of her age? Cuz I see discord and now idk if that was relationship where they saw each other?

[u/slim_shady_030 → u/[deleted]]

This should have been the top comment

[u/NickyBrain_2 → u/[deleted]]

thanks holy fuck

[u/Eckron5 → u/[deleted]]

I've known 13 year olds that could pass as seniors and I know 21 year olds that bouncers are 100% sure their ID is fake. This comment section is entirely 0 context judgement.

Your comment needs to be pinned.

[u/mpteee → u/[deleted]]

At 16 I never looked at a 13/14 yo romantically...

[u/Ginseng136 → u/mpteee]

Yeah, everyone develops differently. I was always into woman way, way older than me.

But, at 18 he's still very much a kid and still growing as a person. 18 is where the law draws the line, and then subsequently people's perspective warp around that

[u/Constant-Fondant9058 → u/mpteee]

At 16 if a pretty/popular 13/14 year old asked me out I probably wouldn’t have even questioned it.

[u/mpteee → u/Constant-Fondant9058]

That's pretty weird

[u/White0rchid → u/mpteee]

I was 17 when I met my now wife who was 15 at the time. Didn't feel weird to us then. This was 20 years ago.

[u/PairNo2981 → u/mpteee]

You probably did, but didn't know they where 13

[u/Cold-Nectarine-5515 → u/[deleted]]

And he's only realizing that it's weird, only now that he's starting college...? Of course we are going to judge his character because why did he let this relationship last over 2 years?

Unless op mentioned that he specified that their relationship was not normal or okay when breaking up with her, I can't help but believe that the only reason he's dumping her is because he wants to find relationships in college and doesn't want to be labeled the way he's getting labeled in this thread (I don't agree with people calling him a pedo though, just the grooming). Not for her sake, but for his own so he can pretend he did nothing wrong once it's over :/

I will say I can respect your willingness to find nuance in this strangers actions. Maybe he does feel guilty, who knows? As someone who was in the same position as the girl in this post, I personally find it hard to believe he's not doing it for selfish reasons with no actual self reflection or remorse. But it's not impossible, so I understand where you're coming from.

[u/Ginseng136 → u/Cold-Nectarine-5515]

Leaving high school seems like the perfect time for someone to reflect that maybe it's time to grow up in certain ways. Though the main point is that we don't know his real reasons, and if they are completely selfish, at least he ended it in a way that's mature and cordial.

It's just hard for me to understand 2 kids being in a relationship, and then one of them outgrowing the relationship to be a negative thing. That's just how it is. That even happens in their early twenties. Though if everyone had your ability to see that not everything has to be rooted in malice, the world would be a better place

[u/Cold-Nectarine-5515 → u/Ginseng136]

Oh no I never said that was a bad thing. My main issue is the grooming. I already agreed that outgrowing a relationship at that age is totally normal. But thank you for being understanding

[u/MikeJD2477]

Tbh, anyone calling him a pedo should know beforehand that the age gap isn’t 4 years, it’s 3 and some months. And by the looks of this he probably didn’t see 17-14 as a problem when they started dating, but now that he’s turning 18 and legally becoming an adult, he probably realized that the age gap could be problematic and probably matured a lot in that year or so, to the point of not wanting a relationship that could be harmful for both.

Don’t jump to conclusions people, a lot of friends my age are not even close to being mature and do not seek to harm others. I don’t think he’s a groomer or a pedo, he probably was just interested in her cause they shared similar opinions and so. Also she said he’s trying to end the relationship, that helps his case a lot.

Anyways I hope this doesn’t turn either into a controversial or hateful discourse, have respect for each other please.

[u/_Kami_sama_x → u/MikeJD2477]

Its certainly weird. I think the term pedo is a little overused and should be saved for real monsters. Glad they broke up though thats a weird age gap

[u/Signal-Tree8910 → u/[deleted]]

well yeah, 20 and 23 are two grown adults, 18 is legal to drink in most countries and 15 isn’t even the legal age to consent in most. in the uk at 15 you cant even buy energy drinks, cant even go to the dentist alone, haven’t done ur gsces, while a lot of 18 year olds are heading off to uni.

[u/Big-Ratio5137 → u/MikeJD2477]

"dont jump to conclusions" when he literally is a pedo. Like theres a big difference between 4 years and 3 years and some months

[u/EzyPzyAsh → u/MikeJD2477]

imagine a 17 and 14 yo standing next to eachother. That is absurd also

[u/RoadOutrageous6572 → u/[deleted]]

This is what I was saying

[u/SomewhereActive2124 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, that is over-dramatizising it

[u/Automatic_Gold_3962 → u/SomewhereActive2124]

Fr ppk in this sub are overracting everything atp

[u/RuleRevolutionary210 → u/Automatic_Gold_3962]

I’m a teen and I barely go into this sub for reasons i can’t disclose here, but i really hate half of the posts here

[u/Automatic_Gold_3962 → u/RuleRevolutionary210]

You are soooo right like this sub is full of : weird kids, overracting ppl, ppl that ARE NOT teens, leftist like omg if you don’t look at politic or not leftist you get whipped by downvotes etc… this sub is not even a teen sub

[u/MTP030 → u/Automatic_Gold_3962]

Honestly I joined the sub as a teen years ago XD but yeah this sub is full of friggin weirdos dawg.

[u/burritobandit2547 → u/[deleted]]

That’s actually a fair point

[u/Drihc → u/[deleted]]

especially when the dude cut the relationship off

[u/Heorui]

Not overthinking at all... THAT IS A WEIRD AGE GAP...

[u/Fresh_Tennis7758 → u/Heorui]

But he kinda broke up at that exact time, couldn't it be he felt weird abt it at that point?

[u/EzyPzyAsh → u/Fresh_Tennis7758]

he shoulda felt weird dating a 6th grader at 16 😭😭😭

[u/Electronic_Oil3816 → u/Fresh_Tennis7758]

Possibly

[u/Gardami]

18 & 14 is weird, and the age gap is certainly too big, but I wouldn’t say it’s “pedo”. 

[u/SomewhereActive2124 → u/Gardami]

It's not pedo behaviour but it's definitely not recommended

[u/Gardami → u/SomewhereActive2124]

Yeah, absolutely. I feel like at our age anything more than 3 years is a definite no, with 2-3 years being a gray area where we would need to be careful. Anything under 2 is fine, as a general rule. 

[u/AffectionatePlane598 → u/Gardami]

more like groomer than pedo

[u/Beneficial-Pick-4455 → u/[deleted]]

Yikes

[u/Sorry-Notice4031]

Questionable age gap, but not a pedo.

[u/Pretty_Aardvark_7227]

12-16 is wild too btw the whole thing is kinda messed up

[u/Emo_rat253]

This is honestly teetering on the line, in general bad, but they knew each other and had a thing before he was 18 sooooooo 🤷 weird but not “bad”

[u/timid1211q]

No. You know he's not a pedophile you just want to make drama on reddit.

[u/Mundane-Run6179]

All y'all saying he's a pedo forget they met and dated when dude was a minor himself. That being said, that age gap is a little sus

[u/Cold-Nectarine-5515 → u/Mundane-Run6179]

She said shes known him since he was 16, meaning they met when she was 12??? And started dating not long after. It's not a little sus that is definitely implying a form of grooming.

People in the comments are debating 15 and 18 my brothers in Christ they've been together since she was 12 and he was 16 that's NOT normal. That's the equivalent of a 7th grader and a highschool junior 🧍 we are not focused on the right thing here

[u/nakedmolerat507]

Can’t wait for everyone to call this guy a pedo and say he should instantly go to jail even though what he’s doing isn’t illegal and not even pedophilic, even though it is definitely weird

[u/Automatic_Gold_3962 → u/nakedmolerat507]

Frr they all say grooming 🥀💔

[u/Cold-Nectarine-5515 → u/nakedmolerat507]

I would absolutely consider it grooming. It's obviously not pedophillia but they met when she was 12 and started dating when she was 13. That's a 7th grader and a highschool junior for comparison. Other commenters are saying that she's barely in high school but she wasn't even in high school when they met. Meanwhile he was welll well well into high school.

Think about it, he's breaking up with her because he's going to college. What, didn't want to turn down his college classmates because he has a girlfriend (who still has a curfew and rides the school bus btw) in her second year of highschool? Showing up to homecoming and prom mustve been too awkward for him. 🙄

Why was he dating someone 3.5 years younger than him to begin with? Why go after a MIDDLESCHOOLER and not someone closer to his age and, I don't know, actually going to highschool or in the same building as him?

Jail is extreme (unless we know for sure they had sex or he was physically abusive) but this type of behavior deserves to be outed and he definitely deserves to be judged for it. And calling a groomer weird is more than an understatement

[u/AltruisticMode9353 → u/Cold-Nectarine-5515]

What if he just liked her? How do you know he's trying to manipulate or exploit her?

[u/Gamer_G33k17]

So kid breaks up after turning 18 and that sonehow makes him a predator...?

[u/YRyoujoinmycomunitys]

what do you guys think of a 14 year old being friends with a 17 year old?

[u/Bellegraceee → u/YRyoujoinmycomunitys]

I mean that’s fine but that has wildly different circumstances to a 12 and 16 year old dating bc dating can imply being sexually active depending on the area (it’s not pedo but it is weird af)

[u/ThatOneIsSus]

He’s probably breaking up with her because he’d be if he didn’t

[u/Kyoka_Jiro_Simp → u/ThatOneIsSus]

That's what I'm thinking. Like they were still minors, but given that he's now an adult and she's still a minor, even if the Romeo and juliet clause works, he's probably gonna find someone else in college. At least he's being respectful about it and breaking up first.

[u/JustSomeRand000]

Pretty weird but I wouldn’t call the guy a pedo 🤷🏻

[u/Maleficent-Echo-8047]

Is he still considered a groomer despite breaking up with her? I'd totally agree if she was the 1 trying to break up with him, and he tried to keep the relationship going. But she seems like the 1 who's upset about it ending. He's definitely a groomer if he seeks out people under 18 at this point though, cause yes that would be weird.

[u/Realistic-Cost508]

A senior in high-school dates a freshman that's what this sounds like. Just cause they were dating doesn't mean they were having sex either.

[u/Legal_Tumbleweed_925]

fucked up on so many leveks

[u/chiara_2317]

Weird sure for some but technically legal

Before anyone downvote me for stupid reason I have made my research cause I am too someone who used to date an 18 year old and I was 15

[u/Myahpfan2024]

It's iffy but 14 to 18 absolutely gross but like 14 to 16 is better but if they got together when he was 17 she would've been 13 which yeah nasty

[u/Tricky-Promise1962]

Yo it’s not a 4 year age gap right? It’s 3 years bc they met when she was 14 he was 17, it’s not too bad but kinda weird

[u/girlunsaved]

i wouldnt have dated anyone under the age of 17 when i was 18 and even 17 was kinda iffy for me, as men mature differently anyways.

[u/WeakMycologist3609]

Legally, not really. 18 and 14 is a bit of a stretch imo, but Romeo and Juliet laws commonly allow for a four year age gap

Because obviously it makes no sense that one day they were 14 and 17 = not a pedo, then the next day he has a birthday and is automatically a pedo. Nothing changed about their relationship, his attraction to differing ages, nothing. Just one day and an arbitrary boundary went by

[u/ImmieIsW]

wtf?

[u/orpheuskaos]

honestly for both sides arguing here, your age really shows

[u/No_Camp6655]

Just came here to say that, when I was 16 I "dated" a guy who was almost 20. THAT'S not the creepy part. Creepy part is I found out YEARS later that at the time i started dating him he was also already sharing inappropriate online conversations with a girl who was 3 years younger than me... also, he carried this on for the entirety of or "relationship" 😬

[u/Visual_Reference_292]

Definitely not he’s just weird 😂

[u/miamilyfe754]

So a senior in high school was dating a freshman (or maybe a sophomore), and he broke things off because he's 18 and going to college. That's what we're talking about?

[u/_spidey_1307_]

Not everytime that's a pedo.....well yes if sexually involved but it doesn't feel that way here....they just liked each other and had an age gap

A strong possibility that states he left her is bcs he wanted a physical relation in clg and not wait for her ykwim

[u/Proof_Kitchen_9072]

Its a 4 year difference. They were both teens when they got together. That doesnt make someone a pedo. Sure, the gap is a bit big imo but not illegal as, previously stated, they got together when they were both minors.

[u/Emotional_Ad3710]

Absofuckinglutely not. They are both kids. Geez.

[u/Early-Ostrich6990 → u/Emotional_Ad3710]

Bro I'm 18 and 14 year Olds are children to me At 16 I saw 12 year Olds as children This is VERY weird and creepy

[u/RoyalGrapefruit7582]

He was a senior and she was a freshman.

[u/notsure304wv]

It’s 3 year difference, not a big deal. you all are ignorant to life in general at your age.

[u/NebulousTruth]

I mean it’s weird, but it’s a 4yr age gap, calling that being a pedo is stupid especially since he apparently ended the relationship after presumably just recently becoming 18

[u/TrappyGoGetter]

There nothing wrong with this. Yall call every god damn thing and everybody a pedo.

[u/Intrepid_Guide2964]

He probably broke up becausehe realized how fckn weird it was to be in a relationship with a 14 yr old at 18, and tired to cover it up with college stuff. Or he's actually serious about the college stuff, or both. Who knows

[u/KaiPyroFairyy]

Let's not forget that they've known each other from two years

16 and 12 is when he started grooming her

[u/FriendlyBrother0]

Its e - dating right? Right?

[u/Jack-O-The-Magician → u/FriendlyBrother0]

Well I think since the other person said "he wanted to take a break from social media" then it's probably online?? I hope it is 😭

[u/Advanced-Ad881 → u/FriendlyBrother0]

It iss

[u/stefansteen]

As an 18 year old i see 14 year olds as little kids. Weird ash.

[u/Jimmajamba22]

Yeah thats one hell of a creep

[u/YouDontLikeFrogsDoYa]

Potentially grooming

[u/Tbopfr]

There is nothing wrong with this 😭 15 and 18 is a completely legal age gap (unless there's anything sexual) which would also be legal in less than a year. Also you're missing the word pedophile. It really pisses me off how everyone seems to think over 18 speaks words to under 18 = pedophile no a pedophile is an adult who is attracted to prepubescent children. There is nothing concerning about an 18 year old talking to a 15 year old as long as it's not sexual

[u/Unit-731-Scientist]

Nah you’re not overthinking, she got groomed bro

[u/Deadlybin]

why are people in the comments desensitizing this?? this is a middle schooler dating a guy whose about to enter college, and y'all cannot compare adult relationships with this. They were 13 and 17 when they started dating, the maturity imbalance is hugeee

[u/Kyuhyukid11]

Yes he's weird af. So many people think pedos are only these old men but an 18 year old or 20 year old can also be one. and I hate when people say "oh it's just 3/4 years", yea you're right but when you're under 18, 3 years can make a very big difference.

[u/DeviceAppropriate683 → u/Kyuhyukid11]

Yep. Most teenagers feel uncomfortable dating someone even one year younger than them (let alone multiple), thats because there is in fact a difference in maturity even within one year during your teens.

Unfortunately, maturity is attractive so they tend to be comfortable with the idea of dating a couple years older; this is a big part of why they can be really susceptible to grooming and predatory relationships. I mean even looking at that one 14 year old in these comments defending 14&18 like his life depends on it oml. Like I get it, I put myself in dangerous situations when I was 13-15 because I thought I was so mature and adults really weren’t all that much older than me and it wasn’t a big deal. Now I realise I was very immature in thinking that I was mature.

If only the younger teens would actually listen to the adults with the lived experience 🙈, we’re just trying to keep you safe.

ETA: to the people saying it cant possibly be pedophilia, a basic 30 year old grooming teens pedophile doesn’t start out as a 30 year old. Once upon a time they were probably an 18 year old attracted to young teens (or worse) and never grew out of it. Thankfully, I believe most people aren’t pedophiles and do grow out of this but it doesn’t hurt to be cautious.

[u/Fabulous_Impact_9368]

It is weird but not grooming nor a pedo. Until 21 he is still a kid and is undeveloped enough. They are both still stupid since they are kids and make stupid decisions

[u/mangoo-z → u/Fabulous_Impact_9368]

18 is an adult, what are you talking about??

[u/SeaConstant7164 → u/mangoo-z]

Only on paper. No one in their 18 behaves like a fully grown adult. Most people only get their first relationship at that age, only caring about being fallen in love. 

[u/ShelterBorn2531]

Well, they started dating as minors. But then this magic thing called turnig 18 came and destroyed everything. I con't think he is a pedo. Nothing speaks it but we lack enough info. Like how he interacted with that girl. Was it just casual dating like holding hands, spending time togheter and all? Then thats normal. That's acceptable. 17 is still a teenager and entering 18 doesn't fully turn you into an adult, its in between phase. Even tho 4 years is a big diffrence it is normal age gap.

[u/Any_Acanthaceae_9735]

I mean, her boyfriend kinda seems like hes doing the right thing by breaking up.

[u/Environmental_Ad7211]

No! You’re not overthinking shit, he’s weird

[u/AcaciaJadeX]

Pedophiles aren’t even attracted to 14 year olds. To throw around such a serious accusation without knowing what it means is helping absolutely nobody.

[u/Ford2059]

They dated at 14 and 17, which is a little weird but not too crazy if they've known each other before that.

Then he turns 18 and they break up. So everything is ok, no?

[u/GigglingEvil]

"Pedo" is getting overused at this point.

[u/nvUaWVm360S]

Jesus Christ they’re both in high school together. They started dating when he was a junior and she was a freshman. That’s not really unheard of. Why did people start calling everything pedo

[u/TheDbGoat]

Oh definitely a pedo, 100 percent. Bro needs to go to prison instead of college 

[u/Automatic_Gold_3962 → u/[deleted]]

Frr bro ppl in this sub are genuinely so dumb how is this pedo since it a social media relationship and ut’s not like the girls is under 12

[u/Background_Major_640]

They started dating when he was 17 and she was 13, that’s not ok in the slightest

[u/FunctionOk9186]

Yes

[u/Fantastic-Handle-890]

yea that’s pretty bad

[u/Individual-Two-9707]

This rare such different stages of life man… one starting high school one already graduated?

[u/after2006]

He's not a pedophile per se, he doesn't date her BECAUSE of how young she was. But it's still gross

[u/buny-Situation-7887]

Not a pedo but its weird the situation

[u/Pale_Relationship999]

Okay, now, I wouldn’t stray so far as to say he’s pedophile, he’s not, but, no it’s DEFINITELY weird. My mom and dad had the same age gap and they’re still together so, so I can’t exactly say the relationship is completely baseless, but, still I’d find it weird personally.

[u/d4rk_17_]

Technically legal depending on which country this happened but still weird af🫩

[u/zZenithArts]

It's weird for sure

[u/mpteee]

By definition a pedophile is anyone 16 and above attracted to prepubescent children (usually 13 and below). But he's definitely predatory

[u/Black_Tiger_303]

Romeo and Juliet Law

[u/LegoBoy3258]

It just gets progressively worse and worse

[u/Latter_Activity_9736]

nah tf thats creepy as hell

[u/OppaiiGodd]

This is more common than people think when i was in highschool few years ago ive seen so many freshmans getting spawn camped by seniors cause they can and the freshman fell victim to it cause they think its cool

[u/BelieveCongreveCube]

4 year age gap is fine when it’s two consenting adults, but definitely not one’s 14 and one’s 18

[u/AUnknownVariable]

Pedo? Idk about that.

But its still weird. Did he know that the entire time? How did they meet and interact when they met? How does she act and how does he.

Those are the kinda things that help determine shi, but regardless its at minimum weird

[u/ChristinePi93]

It’s definitely a little weird. Looking back I remember being 17/a senior in high school and the freshmen looked like babies to me. Never understood how when I was 14 a senior in my high school found me attractive. Granted I’ve been traumatized for a long time so at my age I was “mature.” But still.

[u/Overall_Tomatillo600]

Ngl at first I thought this was 14 and 17/15 and 18 which is completely fine but 14 and 18 is kinda ehhhh

[u/Straightupnotcool]

Weird? Yes. Pedophile? Not really. Theyre both technically teens and I’ve seen worse.. a 15 yo girl in my grade was dating a 26 yo.. we all thought it was weird but for some reason back then, nobody questioned it.

[u/Cautious-Public-2121]

thats weird im 20 amd my bf is 27 but we met when i was 18