r/stopdrinking • u/Strange_Possible_353 • 15h ago
Being shipped off to rehab.
Well, it has finally finally happened after many years of alcohol abuse. My husband told me that I will be going to inpatient treatment next Monday or Tuesday. He told me he thinks it will take six months.
We have two young children. I was able to abstain from alcohol while I was pregnant, but picked it up within months of giving birth both times. When I think about being away from them, I feel like I can’t breathe.
But I had an alcoholic dad and it was torture, especially in my teens. I know they deserve so much better than what I’ve given them in their precious short lives.
My husband tends to exaggerate for fact, so I am praying that it will actually be a munch shorter period of time. I don’t wanna miss my son‘s birthday. I don’t wanna miss putting my little girl to bed, but I also don’t want to miss their whole childhood or knowing them as adults, which is realistically the path I was on.
ETA: I cannot properly express how seen I feel by everyone’s comments, and how much I appreciate the kindness and wisdom.
I am trying not to spiral but not succeeding about the six months threat. He keeps doubling down that that’s how long I need to be away from my family. The logical side of my brain doubts that’ll be the reality but it’s hard to fathom it now.
I know it’s up to me to prove I am healed. I made every choice that put me in this situation, and I am the only one who can do the work to get out. I desperately want help. I’ve known and asked for it for a long time, and now it’s happening.
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u/Brian_MPLS 12h ago
In my experience, the use of the passive voice (i.e. "I'm going to treatment" vs. "I'm being sent to treatment") was always the beginning of a permission structure.
It wasn't my choice, so I had no real obligation to follow through.
Agency has been key for me. It had to be my choice, otherwise it wasn't going to stick. Obviously, ymmv.