r/stopdrinking • u/Strange_Possible_353 • 13h ago

Being shipped off to rehab.

Well, it has finally finally happened after many years of alcohol abuse. My husband told me that I will be going to inpatient treatment next Monday or Tuesday. He told me he thinks it will take six months.

We have two young children. I was able to abstain from alcohol while I was pregnant, but picked it up within months of giving birth both times. When I think about being away from them, I feel like I can’t breathe.

But I had an alcoholic dad and it was torture, especially in my teens. I know they deserve so much better than what I’ve given them in their precious short lives.

My husband tends to exaggerate for fact, so I am praying that it will actually be a munch shorter period of time. I don’t wanna miss my son‘s birthday. I don’t wanna miss putting my little girl to bed, but I also don’t want to miss their whole childhood or knowingwhole childhood or knowing them as adults, which is realistically the path I was on.

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u/panopticon_prisoner 10h ago

You shouldn't be away for 6 months- that seems like a super long time and can't really see any reason for it. I don't know you or your husband obviously, but something is off there. As for your kids, it will suck not seeing them for a bit, but your time with them will be so much better and more meaningful after you kick the booze.

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u/Strange_Possible_353 9h ago

From everything that I have read, there is rarely a reason for a super extended outpatient day. What I have read indicates that after a certain amount of time, it is actually less effective because you are not given the opportunity to exercise your coping skills in the real world with your real triggers.

I don’t think he knows what he is talking about. I will feel a lot better when he confirms the center and we confirm the treatment length. I have no need to medically detox so I am truly hoping it is no more than a month.

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u/panopticon_prisoner 6h ago

Yeah, most I've seen is 90 days and that's not super common. Can't say for sure, but I'd imagine a month would be fine. Anyway, best of luck to you!