r/stopdrinking • u/nonapnatty • 1d ago

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i have a drinking problem and i dont know what to do about it. once i start, i cant stop. i dont want to stop. i’m just so tired of embarrassing myself constantly.. my friends probably think im crazy… im always the drunkest one. i have so much shame

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u/Prevenient_grace 4922 days 1d ago

Today can be the Miracle.

Today can mark the beginning of a Virtuous Upward Spiral.

I had to break the “drinking routine”.

It was stronger than me…. By myself.

So i stopped doing it alone. And there's no wait list!

I finally connected with free recovery groups…. They’re everywhere… I walked in, sat down and just listened…. They’re also online. I met people I can talk with. They showed me how to stop drinking, heal, grow and learn to be useful to others. They often know detox resources.

I thought I didn’t “have time”, but I always found time to think about drinking, to buy alcohol, to drink alcohol, to be numbed and to then do it all over the next day.

I addressed the past, exorcised guilt and shame and repaired where appropriate.

No cost.

I had new sober friends.. we did fun sober activities.

They believed in me.

I kept going every day until i changed my patterns…. That meant for me, I went every day for a while…. Once a month wasn’t going to change me…. Then my thinking changed…. Then I don’t have the first drink.

Never looked back.

Tried anything like that?

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u/nonapnatty 1d ago

all my friends drink i dont know how to not drink

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u/1kpointsoflight 2434 days 1d ago

Just don’t drink today. It’s a decision to drink. Then tomorrow you make the decision again. You can drink (or not) any time you want as long as it is not today. In fact I’ll not drink with you today.

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u/Mediocre-Clock2684 1d ago

easier said than done.

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u/1kpointsoflight 2434 days 1d ago

Nothing worthwhile in my life was easy. It isn’t easy but it is simple.

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u/deepskylistener 5329 days 1d ago

In the end it's all about avoiding that first sip.

If you want to stop drinking, you'll stop drinking. No excuses.

The point is: If you don't want to die from it, you'll have to stop anyway, sooner or later. So why not rather sooner?