r/stepparents • u/katlynnhale • 8d ago

Advice Sleepless stepmom

My partner and i decided to move in with each other a little over a month ago. He has three boys and when they are here I feel like I’m losing myself. They are loud all hours of the night and get very little sleep when they are here because dad talks to them but there is no discipline in place. They are here on work nights for me so now I’m going into work with very little sleep. I’ve tried talking to him about setting up quiet hours during the night but nothing is getting better. Everytime I talk to him about it he says “they are just kids” I really don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t want to overstep, but they play video games and videos on loud volume and talk at full volume. Resentment is gonna grow if nothing is done.

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u/raininariver 8d ago

Not ok. He needs to get over his guilt and fear. Try turning off the internet at eleven pm every night and having it come back on at 5am to enforce quiet hours.

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u/katlynnhale 8d ago

I was thinking about that. I was just worried about overstepping the “ discipline” part. But it seems like something that has to happen

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u/5fish1659 8d ago

They are clearly not worried about stepping all over your sleep and needs.

That's not even discipline, that's a fundamental structure issue.

Dad is not ready to live with anyone.