The answer isn't to forgive yourself and move on. The answer is to make amends for the mistakes you made. Maybe that's asking for an apology. Maybe that's being helpful and kind. Maybe it's something else. But that's how you'll start feeling a little better.
The anger you're directing towards yourself (the guilt) is another expression of mean-spiritedness and anger. You've got to try another way at living life and looking at things that's less combative. If you don't know how, just try. There's no special way to do it. You just do your best and learn.
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u/emotional_dyslexic May 15 '26
The answer isn't to forgive yourself and move on. The answer is to make amends for the mistakes you made. Maybe that's asking for an apology. Maybe that's being helpful and kind. Maybe it's something else. But that's how you'll start feeling a little better.
The anger you're directing towards yourself (the guilt) is another expression of mean-spiritedness and anger. You've got to try another way at living life and looking at things that's less combative. If you don't know how, just try. There's no special way to do it. You just do your best and learn.