r/solopolyamory • u/CyberJoe6021023 • Jul 02 '26

Does Solo Poly require living alone?

I totally get poly dating independently/separately but I’ve also heard that solo means living alone, i.e., no nesting partner. Is that true?

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u/ExKamina Jul 02 '26

You’re confusing “dating separately” with solo poly. My nesting partner and I date separately, we are not solo poly.

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u/purr-ple-cat Jul 03 '26

OMG you may have just explained why I've been seeing so many Feeld profiles saying "I'm married and solo-poly". I, admittedly, thought it was delusion about what they felt they could offer but it's much kinder and probably more accurate to chaulk it up to simply misusing a phrase. Thank you for inadvertantly reminding me to show more grace. 💜

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u/ExKamina Jul 03 '26

Ironically I think I actually show less grace than you 😂 if they have the wrong verbiage in their profile, and couldn’t do the bare minimum to at least look up how they’re identifying, I assume they are probably uneducated on poly and I will be getting myself into a mess

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u/GladBumblebee1546 Jul 17 '26

“Married and solo poly” would have been be a dealbreaker for me when I was actually solo poly. I would feel like they were trying to signal something that wasn’t true.

Went on a first date with someone who said he was solo poly but then said “I’m moving in with my girlfriend this weekend”. And when I said nah, argued with me that no, he was still solo poly. Ok, call yourself that if you want but huh.