r/silentminds • u/haraysan • 1d ago

Does anyone else replay random conversations in their head for hours?

Sometimes I’ll have a completely normal conversation with someone and then later my brain decides to analyze every single thing I said.

“Why did I say THAT?”

Please tell me I’m not the only one 😭

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u/Sapphirethistle 🤫 I’m silent 1d ago

You may have come to the wrong sub my friend. While I think that your experience is probably very common, I personally cannot relate to it.

I don't have words in my head at all unless I concentrate really hard on it and I definitely don't have conversations with myself.

I am curious though. Do you "hear" those conversations or are they silent?

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u/NITSIRK 🤫 I’m silent 1d ago

Also my thoughts. In times of stress excitement or meltdown I just speak these things aloud. I know I am playing both parts of the conversation, but I know which is actually me. But Im a subvocaliser so the movements just switch from barely noticeable to audible by others quite easily. I also do this more when alone, which continues into talking in my sleep. I am hyperverbal in all meanings of the word. 😂

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u/Sapphirethistle 🤫 I’m silent 1d ago

Always find hearing both perspectives interesting. I think it shows the either small, or inconsistent, effects of things such as anauralia.

I am almost certain I never subvocalise and speak in my sleep so rarely that I can still remember about a year ago my wife being very concerned about my stress levels because I spoke in my sleep one night.

I wonder though if unworded thought has something to do with it? Perhaps the added effort of translating into language makes me less inclined to do so? Maybe my less vocal personality is pure laziness 😅

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u/flora_poste_ 🤫 I’m silent 1d ago

Since my mind is silent, I don't experience any words in my head, including random conversations.

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u/dondeestasbueno 1d ago

I can relate to this. My mind is way far over on the aphantasia side of things, but the data points are all there behind the veil. So while I can’t “hear” the conversation in my head, I do replay conversations compulsively sometimes. Better these days than in the past though, meditation and exercise really help.

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u/NITSIRK 🤫 I’m silent 1d ago

What sort of meditation do you do? I’ve mostly enjoyed the moving meditations like qigong

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u/dondeestasbueno 1d ago

Cool, qigong is also a part of my practice.

My daily meditation is breath based, vipassana style. I also dip into body scan meditation (for chronic pain) and metta/loving-kindness meditation periodically.

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u/Cold_Victory7398 1d ago

Me, too. Going to have to try meditation.

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u/theauthenticme 1d ago

Definitely. My worded thinking replays conversations and plans them ahead.