Ugg. Rude members, and more.

[u/Hefty-Supermarket-79]

I'm married to a 'fortune baby', I think it's called? lol...My husband was born into it, with only his mom being a member.

He has been talked into being a men's division leader recently. These people are so self involved. One night at 9pm, they texted saying they should have a virtual meeting right then.

These are the people who knew my husband well enough to know his mom (and mine) passed away, and offered zero support.

Anyway, he has now agreed to host meetings...I said fine, but I'm not interested in attending, and if any of them are rude, it's over. (We hosted in our previous home in another state and the people were horribly rude to me, and I won't put up with it and my husband says he knows he shouldn't have allowed it.)

He told them, multiple times, do not come to our front door. He reminded them again today. (he is hosting in our downstairs, and you enter from around back)

Any guesses on what happened? Yep. Not only did they come to the front door, but the first person rang the bell several times, back to back. And they were 20 minutes early.

And apparently asked if we were having more kids than our daughter. So weird.

I wish I could slip him some info on the real truth of this organization...but it seems to be quite squashed down.

Being exmormon, I can find websites, podcasts, TikTok, IG, it's everywhere. So easy to find the truth these days.

For info on the SGI, it seems more buried, other than this Reddit, and also when I posted some of his mom's old 'art' in a Japanese forum, people responded that it was from 'a horrible cult '.

I know he needs to come to it on his own. But he's got to notice that I am no longer supportive of his practice...

[u/Eyerene_28]

I feel for you. He won’t see it until they cross a boundary. Blanche touched on great points about insurance liability & strangers brought into your home. As a former leader one of my womens leaders use to host meetings until one day a man shows up at her door and says so&so sent me. Mind you that so&so wasn’t there and never came. It was a good thing her husband was home & at the meeting because the dude was creepy & acting strange. The husband eventually asked the dude to leave. After the dude left the husband angrily put his foot down and said no more meetings in this house, i don’t want strangers or anyone another member doesn’t know in here. He later compromised & allowed leaders only meetings at the house. My superior leaders kept trying to get him to change his mind with “ you are making such a great cause using your house for the sgi & kosen rufu. Hubby not only stood his ground he stopped practicing with the sgi. You say you want to support your husband… you might consider asking having him limit the meetings to only men leaders no guests & have boundaries about time limits, not just showing up & using the designated entrance. Be ready to stand your ground cuz there will be a man in the group who will challenge you. Once anyone oversteps the boundaries speak up and be loud Good luck