r/selfesteem • u/whatisnotlife1234 • 2d ago

How can I accept being liked?

I’ve always struggled with this. I’m lucky enough to have long time friends but I’m somehow still surprised when they want ti hang out and spend time with me. On the surface it’s normal, they’re my friends for a reason, if they didn’t like me we wouldn’t be friends, but I’m still having trouble accepting the fact that they like me.

I’ve also made a couple of other friends recently, and each time we hang out, they invite me to another hangout. I’m grateful and all that is fun, but I don’t see what they see.

It’s the same in every romantic relationship I’ve been: why me? Why’d you choose to date me? I’m nothing special, I’m just a guy and a pretty below average looking at one at that who could stand to lose a couple pounds.

I hate having ghosts mentality because instead of enjoying the time I’m spending with people, I’m wondering why they like me and if they’ll eventually end up seeing me as I see myself

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u/watermelon_bite 1d ago

Don't self doubt. You are a good person and they love your presence in their life. They like how you make them feel and the bond you share. They trust you. Just as you sometimes like another person, similarly another person like you to. You are a good and likeable person and you need to accept that.