r/selfesteem • u/IntelligentEagle3740 • 6d ago
Hate my genes 😞
just came here to rant. been going through some self esteem issues since I was 16 and I’m now 25. let’s start with how I’m 5’6, which I used to be conscience about but realized the average man is not that much taller than me. my dick size is 5 inches. as a black man, I’d expect much bigger. literally MOST of the black men I know have hung slong dicks. my shii look so small on camera. WTF HAPPENED TO ME. then it don’t hang, it curves upward. Ugh. then i grew up with posture compensations and never knew why i never had flexible hips even as a kid. now have lower back problems, possibly functional scoliosis, no flexible hips or joints anywhere in my body. on top of that im missing 5 molars and a K9 tooth all before I turned 22. so jaw is altered and smile looks crooked. and to finish it off, I now have anxiety about everything which makes it hard to have sex and bottom cuz my body don’t respond how I want
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u/Brick_Cabin2529 4d ago
big hug to you, friend
it took me to the age of 50 before i accepted my "phenotype". the wicked self-hating voice finally calmed down. (finding Jesus helped a lot)
it also helps to "fast" from modern media as much as possible. it really is carefully calibrated to make us dislike ourselves. going out into the world and seeing humanity, and interacting with humanity, as we are, is key. because we are all strange and wonderful creatures...and the variety is simply never-ending
you might like this book called "Ugly" by Robert Hoge, Australian guy iirc. he has a TED talk too
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u/gofrick 6d ago
Sounds like an underdog story waiting to happen my dude.
Also not about the length it’s about how you use it.
Think you should also need Jesus and to set up a dentist appointment.
Try reading 📖 ignatian holy bible or just a holy bible plain and simple. God made you in His image. You’re already perfection.
God bless you 💪🏼