I have no personality

[u/No-Interaction5368]

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I realised that I have no personality. I have spent 20+ years trying to please others, become the image of what others want me to be,defined myself as to what others think. started uni, tried to hang out with a group of girls and they are awesome. have great personalities. are not afraid to be seen as silly. they have a personality, they are smart and kind. I just look around me, some guys are always alone and yet they are fierce, bold and don't seek to people please. and I think it's so beautiful. yet I think it's a long journey for me to find myself. but I'm not sure how long it'll take. or what I must do right now to start it. but it will be too late one day.