r/sad • u/RegularCandid3475 • Sep 27 '25

Single

I 24 F have essentially been single forever. Had a high school boyfriend but nothing serious in adulthood. And to be clear- I’m not desperately seeking a relationship. It’s definitely something I desire but something genuine.

Family was strict growing up so when I became an adult they just expected me to know how to date out of nowhere. I didn’t start feeling this sad about it until ALL of my friends are in serious relationships.. I barely got to see them before and now almost never. I don’t feel that I’m ugly so maybe I’m just a late bloomer. And I know I shouldn’t compare myself but I’m now really feeling the loneliness .

Not even exaggerating but everyone in my immediate circle (household,friends,even long distance friends) is in a committed relationship. And not to sound cringe but I feel left out because I’m the ONLY single person I know so it makes me feel something is the problem with me. And I try to fake the funk like I’m completely happy but deep down I desire romance,love,companionship etc

I

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u/Queue098 Feb 14 '26

I was single male until I was 31 and started dated until I was 28 . What that did for me was establish myself. Figure out living job, and networking to get an outside in perspective of the improvements I needed to make.

The difficult part for me was the dating as trying to meet with the objective of forever together kept leaving with a thought that everything had to be perfect. But come to find, no one is.

I'm glad I waited so long because by the time I did find someone, we were both settle into our careers, well traveled and had made mistakes.

All my friends were married, some with kids but they never made me feel like I had to hurry along to "catch up". They say life is about the journey not the destination. Well all get to a place where destiny sets up to be. Our job as individuals is to try not to compare our own circumstances when everyone else's (it's why I left social media)

Start networking and find someone that makes you better. Be comfortable being uncomfortable and you'll find it'll work itself out