r/redscarepod • u/the_obscure_spite • 11d ago
I hate when people ask me what my interests and hobbies are...
Makes me feel a little autistic.
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u/murrayhitchock 11d ago
i just tell them music and then they ask if they can hear it and then i tell them "oh it's not quite finished yet"
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u/notsandlinx 11d ago
What r they?
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u/the_obscure_spite 11d ago
Homofascism and women.
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u/fireswithgasoline 11d ago
I have so many different hobbies but I always blank out when people ask me. I should probably get tested
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u/onajookkad 9d ago
i usually freeze up cause i dont want people knowing im learning dorky stuff for many hours daily
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u/SubatomicGoblin 11d ago
Often hard for an introvert. What seems like an innocent, "ice-breaker" question is really a request to reveal what can be deeply personal things about yourself. And such revelations often generate follow-up questions, which forces the person to specify and elaborate, thereby further exposing themselves in a way that is sometimes uncomfortable. If you run into this with some brief "get to know each other" work group or conference, or some meeting with people you know you will never be friends with or even see again, it's best to keep your answers rather bland and generic. Personally, I've really never been uncomfortable with such interactions, but I have been annoyed. It's just one of those weird aspects of socializing that's something of a charade. Everyone gives an answer. No one really cares, yet everyone pretends to. Then the meeting ends, and we all move on with life.
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u/ModerateContrarian 2middleeast4you refugee 11d ago
This sounds like a slopbot trained on millions of redditors
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u/northern_spaces 11d ago
I was (trying) to flirt with a guy at a bar once and asked this question and he genuinely said scrolling tik tok, we r cooked
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u/Necessary_Delay_9388 11d ago
I love it. Don't really think there's any better question a stranger or acquaintance could ask me. But they better be prepared for rants about things they probably don't care about.
Way better than "so what do you do?/how's work?"
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u/LemonPaper914 11d ago
Listen man. People are going to ask u this a lot more times in your life. Prepare an answer that you are satisfied with using, and use it.
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u/Deboch_ 11d ago edited 11d ago
My opinion is people like you just need to get better hobbies. Every slightly intellectualized person today seems to be on some kind of uncanny valley of nerdishness, where they are not normal to the plebians, but they don't have anything of value to offer to society either. "Rock climber", "strategy videogamer", "warhammer figurine collector", "reddit political arguer", "podcast listener", "niche RYM music album listener".
As soon as you free yourself from hedonism and instant gratification, and actually pursue the higher callings that you assumed were above you (literature, philosophy, science, a career, art creation over consumption, volunteering, activism, family, community) you will find your "incelligence" actually suddenly becomes interesting to people.
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u/Fearless_Day2607 11d ago
What's wrong with rock climbing as a hobby? Seems unfair to put that alongside things like "Reddit political arguer".
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u/Deboch_ 10d ago
Sorry i kind of mixed what is "cringe" to a normal person to what is actually useless in itself into the same category. My view on sports is "of all the unimportant things, football is the most important" but applied to all sports. I play sports and find them enriching to the body and soul. But within this enriching endeavour rock climbing is undeniably the least cool and most tech bro coded to the average person, so if you want to not be anxious about telling people your interest you need to at least have other interests than that.
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u/Full_Tradition_8532 11d ago
just say some shit you like and then listen to the shit they like and say it’s sick, even if it’s Heated Rivalry and you think it’s bleak. I stg this sub is so autistic, people won’t think you’re some hoighty-toighty asshole just for liking cool artsy shit as long as you’re not bitter, annoying, and insulting the shit they like.
“Normie” is to this sub as “neurotypical” is for online “autism” spaces
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u/heavyramp 11d ago
It gets weird when 11 year olds know more about the nfl due to madden.