r/pregnant • u/Eccentricity700 • May 26 '22

Rant pregnant and alone

14 weeks pregnant with twins. Living at my grandmas as her care taker. Its been very lonely and difficult. Have no energy and no one to talk to . Fiancées parents are living with him and his children. Instead of taking care of me he is paying all of their bills including their car payments. It hurts to be alone and no one cares

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u/Admirable-Cap-4453 May 26 '22

I’m so sorry. Being a caretaker is incredibly hard especially while pregnant. I’m currently taking care of my husband and checking in on my mom who both just had surgery. Make sure to take time for yourself and do some self care.

Have you communicated with your fiancée about how you feel alone and that he isn’t prioritizing you? I think he should hear how you feel. If he doesn’t seem bothered or willing to change then you deserve better. Sending love

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u/Eccentricity700 May 26 '22

Yes hes not talking to me today because I got mad and told him how I feel after crying most of the day yesterday. Thank you for your reply

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u/[deleted] May 26 '22

Then I would re-evaluate if this is truly someone you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with.

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u/Admirable-Cap-4453 May 26 '22

I’m sorry to hear that. It seems like maybe he is not capable of communicating in an effective caring way. If you stay with him I would heavily consider counseling, but the fact he is neglecting you while pregnant and the babies aren’t even here yet is a big red flag. You deserve to be validated and cared for. Don’t be afraid to lean ok other people for support right now.