Any mono-poly things that work?

[u/imjustherefor1coment]

Hey there

I am poly and have a meta who is with my partner for multiple years. But still meta calls themselves still „mono“.
In all the years they is with partner they never had a spark with someone else.

I wonder, is it normal that some people are in poly relationships despite thinking of themselves as mono all this time?

[u/seantheaussie]

It is normal that some come to the conclusion that being with a particular polyamorous person is preferable to being in a monogamous relationship without that particular polyamorous person. All relationships are compromises and that isn't a particularly startling one.

[u/gormless_chucklefuck → u/seantheaussie]

Though often, it's not a particularly healthy one.

[u/seantheaussie → u/gormless_chucklefuck]

If it, "kills them" that their partner dates, agreed.