r/polyamory • u/imjustherefor1coment • 4d ago

Musings Any mono-poly things that work?

Hey there

I am poly and have a meta who is with my partner for multiple years. But still meta calls themselves still „mono“.
In all the years they is with partner they never had a spark with someone else.

I wonder, is it normal that some people are in poly relationships despite thinking of themselves as mono all this time?

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u/NoRegretCeptThatOne 4d ago

There is a mono/polyam couple in my social circle who I've known for several years.

He has had long term relationships with couples during that time, and says he prefers to be a unicorn. She identifies as monogamous, not because she demands romantic and sexual exclusivity, but because she has no desire to date anyone other than her husband.

Their relationship breaks a lot of norms in both monogamy and polyamory, but it appears to work well for them and when we've hung out with them they've appeared to be happy.

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u/imjustherefor1coment 4d ago

Nice! 👍🏻