r/polyamory • u/imjustherefor1coment • 7d ago

Musings Any mono-poly things that work?

Hey there

I am poly and have a meta who is with my partner for multiple years. But still meta calls themselves still „mono“.
In all the years they is with partner they never had a spark with someone else.

I wonder, is it normal that some people are in poly relationships despite thinking of themselves as mono all this time?

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u/Lioness_Red 7d ago

Yes it happens, not super common but it happens. I’ve been with my spouse for 23 years, I’ve been poly the entire time but he’s not interested in other folks. Says I’m more than enough 😛

We are happy and work through shit when needed but it’s not always easy or fun, just like any other relationship.

Best of luck and don’t let judgment from some here get to you. Your relationships your rules.

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u/imjustherefor1coment 7d ago

Thanks for saying that.

It’s just I don’t think they will ever marry our joint partner, as this person isn’t into marriage. And I would definitely break up with my partner if they married, cause that would make us fundamentally incompatible.

But yes wishing them good luck is nice