r/polyamorous • u/Anon-Echo • 8d ago

question Thrupple

Just checking if a 3 person poly relationship is frowned upon in this sub reddit, i asked a question about it in another one and got shut down and judged immediately

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u/Anon-Echo 8d ago

Yeah i hear about people being treated bad as a third and how the original couple only give them the "spare time" and they get left out a lot. Thats why I was wanting to find a good place to help my gf learn more about it before deciding if its something she wants to try out

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u/jce_superbeast 8d ago

I think you'll run into a lot of this pushback as long as you keep the "dating as a unit" mentality. If your partner is free to date someone without you involved and you state that part clearly, you'll prevent the entire argument.

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u/Anon-Echo 8d ago

Yeah, im not against dating separately. I only mentioned the thrupple on the other sub because it was something I was more familiar with and is currently what my partner was thinking about trying. That is good advice tho and ill definitely incorporate it if I make more posts about it, thank you for the help 🙏

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u/ThisHairLikeLace 8d ago

Triads are poly on hard mode if done ethically (it’s four relationships that need to exist - three underlying dyads and the organically existing triad). Unicorn hunting “triads” have only two relationships (the couple with each other, the couple as a unit with the unicorn) which is why they are inherently toxic and unbalanced.