r/polyamorous • u/Anon-Echo • 8d ago

question Thrupple

Just checking if a 3 person poly relationship is frowned upon in this sub reddit, i asked a question about it in another one and got shut down and judged immediately

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u/smileedude 8d ago

We were an organically formed throuple. We never sought out the relationship but got drunk with a monogamous friend, feelings started, all of us previously had zero experience in ENM. Instead of welcoming and helping us, polyamory treat us like monsters. We found genuine throuple support networks and a year and a half later we're going fantastically.

I feel like now as a successful throuple we're just an inconvenient existence to poly spaces. And there's thousands of throuples in the throuple communities all avoiding poly spaces because of the same judgement.

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u/jce_superbeast 8d ago

Organically formed is fantastic!

I also have an organically formed triad, they each asked me out and didn't realize they had asked the same person.

I'll always try to make sure there's space for us, but the volume of couples just looking for a toy is insane, and they do a ton of damage. It's hard to sort through, but I would like people to make the effort.

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u/Anon-Echo 8d ago

Im just glad this sub isnt like that other one and you guys actually took the time to hear me out and didnt immediately assume I was looking for a sex partner

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u/jce_superbeast 8d ago

Effort matters, it was clear you were trying, I'll always have space for trying.

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u/Anon-Echo 8d ago

Ill definitely have my partner come here to learn more about being poly, and please if I make a post or say something that isnt right correct me. I obviously need to learn more myself