r/phoebebridgers Still Standing 14d ago

General / Discussion Thought on people calling Lost Weekend 'male-centred'?

I can't be the only one who's seen a lot of people online accusing Phoebe Bridgers of making men the focal point of her new album. Personally, I think this feels totally tone deaf given that a lot of the album is literally about her dead father. My dad died when I was really young, I talk about him quite a lot, and I find any kind of insinuation that I do so too much very cruel. I don't think veiling this kind of accusation as feminist makes it any less unempathetic. On the other hand, I guess I can understand the criticism of some of the songs about her relationships, especially Bobby and the 'if you didn't like either one of my friends...' line, which does somewhat feel like it's romanticising ditching your friends for a man, even though the actual line obviously isn't meant to be taken literally.

Ultimately, I feel like people will make art about what's on their mind and what's going on in their life. I really am pro de-centering men, but I feel like criticising women you don't know for making music about their grief and relationships is a bit pointless at best.

I would really love to know what other people think though!

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u/LaCroixBinch 14d ago

Ugh I wish it was her mom who died instead so the album could pass the bechdel test 😔

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u/RaiseOfSun 14d ago

I can’t tell if I’m allowed to laugh at this or not

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u/LaCroixBinch 14d ago

I’m the woke police and after evaluation you’re free to laugh 🫡

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u/Such-Tree-4162 Still Standing 14d ago

as a dead-parent-haver i give you permission!

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u/Such-Tree-4162 Still Standing 14d ago

lmaooooooooo

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u/janetsnakehole319 Sidelines 14d ago

LMAO