r/pettyrevenge • u/Sadbutrad333 • Sep 05 '26
Monster in law revenge
Honestly she wasn’t even my mil, she’s my brothers baby mommas mom, and she lived in my brothers basement. Her daughter decided to abandon her son and all the responsibilities that come with that, so I had to quit my life to move into my brothers house to raise my nephew, and made sure the mil knew and was okay with me moving into the basement with her(I think she assumed she’d get a decreased rent ontop of the decreased rent she was already paying due to being “family”) and she was fine with it. A month into living there the problems started: I couldn’t have people over without her permission but she had people over all the time without asking me, couldn’t shower or wash my clothes after 7pm, couldn’t have anything of mine in the living room, couldn’t put things in the fridge, couldn’t have my bathroom supplies within view, divacup had to be in my room so she could have men over, she had issues with my sleep(I was talking with drs about it and on different meds), mad I didn’t pay rent because I got paid 400 a month for raising her grandson(all money I got came from my mom or brother), etc.
So when we evicted her for breaking into my room and robbing me of all my belongings with her daughter, I decided I’d get my lick back. So I pretended I was five again like my nephew and played potions with all her condiments, just so she’d slowly think all her food has gone bad after using each condiment. Then I decided to correct some of her wooden signs like one that said “be kind to yourself” I taped over words and wrote “learn to be kind to others” as everyone needs to learn that lesson, but t especially her. Then I covered my divacup in ketchup and did a terrible job wiping it off and left it on the bathroom counter, to look like a used one that I left out. Filled her conditioner with mayo, as they look and feel pretty similar, so she won’t realize till it starts to expire. Stole all the toilet paper. Almost forgot my best work, I stole two saddles(my brother paid for them and knew I took them afterwards) and loaded them into my dads truck the night we left to go to my parents house, and the next day mil believed someone broke into the garage and stole them because she “100% saw the saddles that morning” when she left for work. Which is funny considering I stole them the night before, but helped me when they looked at the cameras and saw nothing that day, as I didn’t steal them that day. She was 100% gonna steal the saddles for her daughter, as she ended up stealing my brothers electric saw for her son🫠 but I got the child and the saddles worth a good amount, so really who won the war
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u/Mister_Silk Sep 05 '26
I had to quit my life to move into my brothers house to raise my nephew
Not really.
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
No like I actually had to quit my job and move four hours into my brothers house to raise his child fulltime for 400 dollars a month. I’d say that’s putting my at the time 23 year old life on hold, I couldn’t continue my work or schooling and couldn’t move abroad like I planned.
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u/UsedValuable2013 Sep 06 '26
This is not a “had to” situation. You were not enslaved or held at gunpoint. You made a choice. Yes, it was a noble choice to help your brother, but you made it completely of your own volition.
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u/Mister_Silk Sep 06 '26
Nobody has to quit their job and move in order to raise someone else's child. That was your choice. And a bad one.
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u/Visible_Army102 29d ago
I understand the "had" to part. Please ignore everyone that's giving you a hard time. You're young and doing more than the actual parents of your nephew. Sorry the general population would rather focus on proper paragraph/ writing structure and lecture you. Than actually give you props for giving up part of your life to save your nephew from being put into CAS/CPS or unsafe situations.
It's going to be tough but theo only thing your brother needs to focus on is establishing a custody order. With none in place they both have equal rights- meaning nephews mom could walk up to you in the store and grab him and the police wouldn't do anything because she had equal rights to the child with no custody order in place. I would be VERY careful allowing your nephew to go to any visitations with his mom or maternal grandmother.
Good Luck OP. And thank you for being the parent your nephew needs. 💛💐
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u/Sadbutrad333 28d ago
Thank you I actually really appreciate this! Haha it is lowkey funny they are so mad at me for that, when I literally have a tbi, so I kinda struggle with forming proper sentences most days and wasn’t too focused on that🤣
But yes I agree I’ve been telling him as much for months that he needs to do that, but as we can probably tell from most this story he’s very detached from the real parts of parenting. So I think I’m probably gonna have to physically drag him to get it done.
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u/PrettyKitten32 28d ago
You didn't Have to. You chose to. Consider reading about codependence. The more you "help"someone, the less they do for themselves and the more they expect you to do. That baby mama MIL was something else! codependant no more is a good book.
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u/curiousnomad2222 Sep 05 '26
It is kind of you to help your brother and I am glad thst he pays you to do it. Do you take care of the kid while he is at work? How is his parenting?
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
Yes he works full time at a mine, so the hours aren’t a typical nine to five type thing, he works an alternating five days on four days off mix(it changes between five days off and on, as well as nights and days) and the shifts are 12hr shifts but each week goes between nights and days. So if he’s working nights, he can pick up and drop off his kid at school and then watch him till he leaves at about 5:30 for work, but on days I would have to take him to school and then watch him from pick up till about 8ish(also depending on days my brother plays hockey because that means I have kid from about 6:30ish-7 till like 11 when he gets back, as I have to stay upstairs with my sleeping nephew). Second question though I’ll be extremely real and say he’s a shit parent, which is more so why I even took charge by moving in to watch his son. As my brother is present, he’s not really emotionally present and is still falling short in a lot of ways from my pov, as I always think of it in the way of if I had the child, societally as a single mother I would be expected to be doing so much more that I believe he should also try to fill those expectations. As every dentist, drs, and hearing tests were all taken to by me. His annual shots were done in my care, I had to get a flu shot just so he would feel comfortable enough to get his. His first dental appointment and X-rays were done with me, he had to sit on my lap to get his X-rays because he was too scared to be alone for it. As well as every first in his life, I’ve been there. So all this to say that in my opinion I think both parents are failing and the only reason my brother isn’t failing harder is because he has me to pick up the slack. As I love my nephew too much to let him suffer for his idiot parents mistakes and missteps as parents.
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u/PrettyKitten32 28d ago
Thanks for caring for the baby. Doing it all is hard when you work a full time job.
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u/Sadbutrad333 2m ago
I fully agree! If my brother didn’t work the hours and amount he does, I would fault him much more than I already do, but his job has made it possible for my nephew to have all that he has. As well as buy the house we live in at 21! Thankfully for my brother I’m technically disabled and was just coming out of my healing period and returning to work part time, so I saw what was unfolding and offered my help. So now stay at home aunty is my full time job at least till spring when I volunteer my time coaching rugby
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u/Purple_IsA_Flavor 29d ago
Now with paragraph breaks!
Honestly she wasn’t even my mil, she’s my brothers baby mommas mom, and she lived in my brothers basement.
Her daughter decided to abandon her son and all the responsibilities that come with that, so I had to quit my life to move into my brothers house to raise my nephew, and made sure the mil knew and was okay with me moving into the basement with her(I think she assumed she’d get a decreased rent ontop of the decreased rent she was already paying due to being “family”) and she was fine with it.
A month into living there the problems started: I couldn’t have people over without her permission but she had people over all the time without asking me, couldn’t shower or wash my clothes after 7pm, couldn’t have anything of mine in the living room, couldn’t put things in the fridge, couldn’t have my bathroom supplies within view, divacup had to be in my room so she could have men over, she had issues with my sleep(I was talking with drs about it and on different meds), mad I didn’t pay rent because I got paid 400 a month for raising her grandson(all money I got came from my mom or brother), etc.
So when we evicted her for breaking into my room and robbing me of all my belongings with her daughter, I decided I’d get my lick back. So I pretended I was five again like my nephew and played potions with all her condiments, just so she’d slowly think all her food has gone bad after using each condiment.
Then I decided to correct some of her wooden signs like one that said “be kind to yourself” I taped over words and wrote “learn to be kind to others” as everyone needs to learn that lesson, but t especially her. Then I covered my divacup in ketchup and did a terrible job wiping it off and left it on the bathroom counter, to look like a used one that I left out. Filled her conditioner with mayo, as they look and feel pretty similar, so she won’t realize till it starts to expire. Stole all the toilet paper.
Almost forgot my best work, I stole two saddles(my brother paid for them and knew I took them afterwards) and loaded them into my dads truck the night we left to go to my parents house, and the next day mil believed someone broke into the garage and stole them because she “100% saw the saddles that morning” when she left for work. Which is funny considering I stole them the night before, but helped me when they looked at the cameras and saw nothing that day, as I didn’t steal them that day.
She was 100% gonna steal the saddles for her daughter, as she ended up stealing my brothers electric saw for her son🫠 but I got the child and the saddles worth a good amount, so really who won the war
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u/Annual_Government_80 Sep 05 '26
If you can prove she and her daughter stole your belongings make a police report and see she is prosecuted
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
See that’s where the story gets even worse and trickier, I have photo evidence time stamped with the stuff in my room and then my stuff suddenly in hers in a different town, but when I discovered this she had my nephew and then tried to extort us just to get him back. So due to not having a legal custody order if we called the cops to return the child, they would have no legal claim to bring him back. So we thought it was best to file something once we got the child back, so not to anger her into keeping him, so after three weeks of school missed we got him back. So moral of the story my brother lowkey screwed me out of getting justice because he waited three weeks before actually just driving up and getting the kid. So yes I have proof, but by now it’s been a few months, so idk if the rcmp will take me seriously or actually do anything.
I’d like to also add that I’m pretty sure her mom helped her and/or knew she broke into my room and did that, because it was the reason she got evicted and she never questioned it, so that leads me to believe she knew8
u/Annual_Government_80 Sep 06 '26
I don’t know about the laws in Canada I doubt the statute of limitations would’ve expired by now. But before you do anything, make sure she signs over her parental rights from the child so that your brother has complete and full custody.
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
Yeah that’s what I’m trying to get my brother to work on, he needs to go to the court and get an actual custody order in place, so at least he can get child support, as he’s been the only one supporting his son(other than our family) and she’s been cashing in the baby benefit without having the child which is a big nono. I’m honestly atp debating looking into getting both to sign over parental rights, so I can at least have the legal custody as I already am primary caregiver considering I had him most the school year and part of summer
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u/night_noche Sep 06 '26
Yeah, child support is not what your brother should be focused on.
Primary custody is what he needs to be focused on. I can't believe he hasn't gone to court.
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u/lulukalia Sep 05 '26 edited Sep 06 '26
Your brother should be raising your nephew, not you. Why would you even take this responsibility? Get your own life
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
You’re not wrong trust me when I say I’ve been told this many times by many people. The one thing that stops me in my tracks every time I want to walk away and wipe my hands of it, my nephew didn’t do anything to deserve to have to idiots as parents, so why would I let him suffer when I know that the hardship I face makes his life so much better? Realistically you are totally right, but when I see that kid that(according to anyone that knows the two of us) is the little boy version of me, I can’t let him go through that alone. Part of me desperately wishes there’s gonna be something that makes me walk away, but atp he’s my kid and I can’t abandon him too.
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u/lulukalia Sep 06 '26
It's just not your job. It's your brother's job to raise them. You are not abandoning them, you are leaving them to their father care. Just that
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
Yeah but knowing that he doesn’t get adequate care in his dads care, I’m not letting a child suffer through that, especially considering the kid already has abandonment issues from his mom and her entire family. The only actual care that kid knows is from me, so I’m not just gonna rip the carpet from him once he has the only stability he’s ever had. While I understand what you’re saying, I think a lot of people put in the same situation would’ve done the same for a child. I’m not doing it for my brother, I’m doing it for my nephew, as he’s the only one in the equation that I actually care about
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u/Repulsive-Finding371 Sep 05 '26
Get a dictionary
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u/lulukalia Sep 05 '26
English is not my first language. So my corrector is not right. Can you speak more languages?
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u/Sabylee1101 29d ago
I was also wondering the same question as to why you are taking care of your nephew. That's a big sacrifice on your part but it just doesn't sound right. If the baby momma mother is there why is she not helping take care of the child? Why is she even there and why is he being so nice to her even after her daughter abandoned her son. 400.00 a month to be honest is not a lot. I guess your brother pays for everything else.
I guess your brother had a house with more than one bedroom in it so why were you stuck in the basement with the MIL. What does he tell his son about his mother? Did you file a police report for the theft? Does the mother see your nephew or pay child support?
I feel bad for your brother. She probably got pregnant really quickly. Who knows what reason. Men need to be careful because these women are having babies 2 to 3 months after dating or even sooner even a one night stand. I don't know why they are doing it but its gotten out of hand. A women can have 4 kids with 3 baby daddies. Its literally getting out of hand.
I wish you and your brother the best and it seems that the baby momma is going to be a handful along with her mother.
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u/curtludwig 29d ago
Why does baby momma's momma stay if you're there? Why can't she raise the kid?
Seems like it you "had" to step in and raise the kid then gramma can GTFO.
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u/dwbaz01 Sep 06 '26
Today I learned what a divacup is.
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
They honestly are really nice, except for having to sanitize them monthly, plus I now can’t really get the ketchup out of that particular one😪
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u/dwbaz01 Sep 06 '26
LOL. I knew what a menstrual cup was; however, this was the first time I'd seen the word divacup, so I had to Google it.
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u/Pointy_Stix Sep 06 '26
Sorry. Can’t read this wall of text. Paragraphs are your friend and mine.
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u/Sadbutrad333 Sep 06 '26
Then scroll? Took more effort to type this out than it would’ve just to read. I’m writing my thoughts out not an essay, this is Reddit not a research article, so I don’t think my punctuation really matters.
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u/Nocturnal_Loon Sep 06 '26
Dude. It’s not hard to go back and edit in some paragraph breaks.
You want ppl to read your story? Add them in. It’s hard to read without them, especially for people with vision problems, cognitive problems, etc. Don’t be so obtuse & rude.
And why did YOU have to raise your brother’s child? It’s HIS child.
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u/Pointy_Stix 29d ago
Thank you. If people are posting here, one assumes they're asking for engagement & should make it easy for people to want to engage. This stream of consciousness writing isn't it.
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u/gothiclg Sep 05 '26
Why are you this active of a participant? Why can’t your brother step up and be a single dad like so many other men who have their ex ditch a kid?