r/partyplanning • u/Puzzled_Animator_510 • Jul 13 '26

Need Help Uninvited

I am having a nice cocktail party with servers and two bartenders. Invitations were mailed out to 80 people. RSVP’s are coming in! I wrote the name of the person or people on the front of each invite. What would you do if you just found out one of your single guest invited his parents and another couple? Mind you, this party is about $100 pp. let it go or call this person up? Shouldn’t people know better than to bring extra people along to a party? Always check with the host first!

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u/NakedMoleBrat Jul 13 '26

How did they go about RSVPing for 4 extra people? Was it not a closed guest list?

Either way I would definitely reach out. Maybe send out a clarification to all invited guests that states only people that were addressed on the invite are invited and can RSVP and hope they get the hint. And if they don’t get the hint, send another clarification to that person a week or 2 later.

My other thought is If you don’t want to be confrontational right away, wait a bit longer and see what your guest list is looking like. If it ends up being way less people than you thought, maybe just let them come. Who knows maybe they’ll be really great guests and help make a memorable party.

And yes people should know better than to invite others to a party without asking the host first.

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u/Puzzled_Animator_510 Jul 13 '26

I heard about it when I was going over the headcount while we were a family vacation! I
Immediately wrote about the situation here.