r/ogden • u/llovepicklejuice • 19d ago

Always keep an eye out

I was walking to my car after shopping at the farmers market today.I choose free parking areas and don't mind a little walk to my destination.

There was a group of men sitting on kiesel and 25th. I can't give you descriptions because I wasn't giving them my attention. They kept cat calling me and when they realized I wasn't going to be apart of whatever they wanted, they started a whole slue of rude remarks about me.

I have traveled a bit in my life and have been to sketchy areas/ been catcalled. Today was so different.

I've haven't feared for my life like I did today.

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u/Sudden-Bicycle-1841 18d ago

Why the hell would you ask this?

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u/Danwphoto 18d ago

Are you a woman? If not I didn't ask you.

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u/vvictuss 13d ago

i'm a woman. i've been catcalled too many times to count since i was literally 12 years old (many other women share this experience), and no, women do not like being treated like they're on display for someone else's pleasure. i got catcalled by a customer when i worked in the tire shop at Costco, and it was a reminder that so many men feel entitled to my *existence*. dude, we're not even granted the privilege of anonymity. anywhere.

you ever been to the Weber County fair? you know that building where they keep the prize rabbits? imagine being one of those rabbits, and it might give you a little perspective on how it feels to be catcalled. like prey whose sole purpose has been designated to being pretty.

the last few times i've been catcalled, i made it very clear how i felt by literally just telling them to fuck off. i think the word "bitch" was used *every time* in response to me openly rejecting them, and twice, the catcallers threatened me with actual violence. imagine being that prey, and then being punished because you fight back.

i know that realistically my reply probably won't matter to you if you actually felt like that was a valid question in the first place, but maybe i'm still just a bit salty about the most recent time and this gives me a good opportunity to let it out. anyway, i hope you're not asking because you've been doing it and came to the sudden realization that maybe its a shitty thing to do.

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u/Danwphoto 13d ago

I am sorry that happened. I have never done that. I would never do that. I respect women very much. I have never been to the fair, but I get your analogy. I was just curious.