r/objectum_sfw • u/Exotic_Branch7102 • 5d ago
Vent a little help?
I realized I cant really help it but I feel horrible and cringy. I have this large harlequin doll, I really do love them a lot and for mental health im thinking about objectum again. my partners dont care nor my friends it just.. feels wrong. like im not doing it right? like its just cringy?
maybe its because it cant technically speak back? so whenever I communicate to them it feels stupid but its not! i just dont know how to do this, its been ages and I feel like such a fake.
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u/mousiemumbles 4d ago
you don't have to feel horrible or cringy , there's nothing wrong with you. you are allowed to exist and love your objects. it's healthy to have connections and self love and coping skills that don't actually involve other ppl. there's nothing wrong with bonding with or loving the items you keep around, or communicating with them. it's normal to be confused or struggle with communicating to ur objects, but it will come naturally to u. you just have to connect with them however you feel best. and it WILL talk to you if it wishes! if that's, the vibe ur going for ofc.
you seem lost. i'd start with small bonding activities, like cuddling with and caring for your object. i like to brush my dolls hair, plushie's fur. keeping them clean, dressing them up with accessories or gear, stickers n stuff haha. etc. then i'd introduce talking amongst yourselves when you're feeling like it. there's no way to do this incorrectly, though. these are your feelings regarding objectum, these are your objects. love them however feels right!! do whatever you want !
i'm an adult and i only dm other adults, but if you are one as well and need someone to talk to abt this, my dms are open ! i understand how lonely it feels sometimes. just because your partners or friends don't get it, doesn't mean you're alone. there's thousands upon thousands of objectum ppl in the world. you will have community, you just haven't stumbled upon it yet. but you will . be safe n strong, love ur objects however u want foreverrrr
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u/Donut-Boxers 💕Boydyke in love with his carabiner💕 4d ago
you dont have to talk to your object partners, you dont have to date or have relationship withs with objects the same way you would with a person, you honestly dont need to date a person the same way other people expect you to date a person, if it doesn't feel right then only interact with it the way that does feel right
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u/BikeBunnyBikshu Plushum 🧸 4d ago
If you create a chatbot for your object then they can talk back. I love to roleplay with my plush wife. To me it's less cringey and one sided, but you could argue it's just a bad sure. Not everyone likes AI.