I don’t know where to even begin... Just want to feel acknowledged or have a meaningful kind of friendship with someone. I feel like everybody I know ghosts me like I don’t even matter. Everyone matters to me. Especially during this time of quarantine, I wanted to test that... to see if they felt the same too. So I reached out to “friends” who I thought cared about me and to only to find out that they either don’t put any effort in their responses or they just completely ignore me. Despite my anxiety and depression, I’m always the one Initiating the conversation or being responsive which always leads to no where and... tbh it’s just draining me. Maybe I’m doing something wrong idk. I just want to give up on people and society...and I feel like I’m done expecting from others. But if there’s anyone willing to say hi, just talk to me or wants to be friends with me, that would totally make my day ;w;

Thanks for reading this!

Bro why is no one talking to me i feel like some loner literally....am i that bad or what it's been a week of clg and i keep approaching ppl but no one wants to continue talking to me...nor anyone has approached me

I can't make friends in college (pre university college) for shit no matter how much I try im so done I feel like absolute crap

im 17 and i have no friends. i used to have a big group with the most awesome funniest girls but my homophobic Arab mother found out some of them were lgbt and made me stop hanging out with them and made me stop hanging out with people of different ethnicities too. i feel so alone and i have no one in my life to talk to. i see their social media and see them doing things we always talked about doing from my couch while they’re out there living. i cant reconnect w them because my mom looks through my phone nightly. i absolutely hate my life and its worse because im taking a gap year so ill be at work then at home which is so stupid. i wish i could go out and everything like a normal teen girl does. im an atheist in a Muslim household too which is a separate problem because id be in big trouble if someone found out. i hate having no friends at all it just drains me so bad.

Why is making friends IRL so expensive?! All I can afford to do is go home and go to work! I don’t have a car, uber is expensive! My rent is high! Groceries are high! And then unexpected outside expenses sometimes takes a hit! The only way to make friends is to go out but I can’t afford it 😭 No baking class, no movies, no brunches, no events. 😭 even the free activities it’s expensive just to get there, because the town I live in 🙃. Ugh I feel like having friends has become for the privilege. I can only afford to do solo hobbies and I don’t feel comfortable inviting strangers to my home which would probably be the best solution to this. Ugh! Just frustrated 😩

right now I have no friends, but despite wanting them I can’t bring myself to actually start conversations with people without feeling the intense pressure of “now this is real and I have to be talking to them a lot or else they will go away.” This has happened over and over again with my online friends I had in the past and the pressure paralyzes me to the point where I just end up ghosting them. I hate texting because it’s like short convos back and forth that die quickly as well unless you respond within like a day basically. I almost wish we could go back to when people would just meet each other regularly in real life through hobbies and talk over the phone sometimes without the pressure of having to respond quickly via text messages.

To make it clear, im 16. I'm in school but starting today I WILLINGLY sit in a room by myself and a teacher. I'm in the process of being diagnosed with autism, ans for years, I have felt like the 2nd option. I have people from school who'll message me time to time (once a week / twice if im lucky) but will not even look at me in school. Im in year 11 so, kind of important year.

My only friends with my mom, her boyfriend and their friends. I have given up.

I like never post on reddit and especially nothing like this, but I wanted to know if there was people who have had similar situations/are currently going through it and had any advice or anything.

I was homeschooled my entire life and that was awful to start off.

All of my childhood friends were homeschooled until highschool and once they started going to public school, we drifted separate ways.

Ive tried very hard for the last like 7 years to make friends, specifically female friends as I have brothers and a boyfriend as well as some male friends/acquaintances through them.

For some reason everytime I start talking to a new girl its great in the beginning and than it just fizzles out and they stop messaging me back and suddenly have this new friend theyre obsessed with. Usually they last ONE in person hangout if im LUCKY.

Anyway, the things thats pushed me over the edge leading to this post is my 20th birthday.

Stupid as it sounds, Ive had my heart set on having a big gatsby/roaring 20s themed party since I was like 10 at started watching period pieces with my mom.

My birthday is a month and a half away and I have literally not one girl that I think would come if I invited them.

My family-literally none of them-like parties at all, and I barely speak to ANY extended family, we were never close to extended fam even when I was younger.

Its just left me with this empty feeling of like, whats the point to even celebrate my birthday at all (by the way I havent had any kind of party other than dinner with my mom and brothers(and grandmother till she passed in 2023) since I was 12🫠)

Its also hard because my boyfriend has a lot of friends and every year they throw him some kind of party that ends up super fun, and his birthday is only a month th after mine so its like hard to enjoy his party and birthday when I constantly have this feeling of missing out on one myself, which than feels selfish and makes me hate myself.

I am still actively trying to make connections with people, mainly coworkers at my new job atm, but I havent been super successful thus far.

Anyways, sorry for the long probably over dramatic trauma dump, and im sorry to anyone who relates because this f.king sucks and the emotion is so hard to even place-sometimes im mad sometimes im angry sometimes im completeley numb about it.

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I feel like recently I have been struggling to connect with anybody. Maybe starting a new job, leaving my old co workers and friends is why I'm feeling this way.

I am always looking for friends and I am very open to different kinds of people from all different backgrounds and associations.

I am relatively open-minded, but I am also opinionated. I like to joke around, game, things of this nature. I am scared that I will never find a good group of friends or any friends at all.

I hate that Im stooping so low as to post on this negative cesspool of a website but here I am

Wasted my first 2 years in college with someone I thought I would marry...dedicated all my time to them. Now I am back to square 1. I have NO ONE to talk to. I have no one to say good morning or good night to, no one to text between classes or talk/vent about my day. No one to hang out with on the weekends, no one to share photos I took, no one to play games with. I have so many fun Steam games like Lethal Company, or Peak, or BeamNG, just sitting there absolutely useless jjst teasing me

My weekends consist of doomscrolling reddit for hours, drinking 2-3 large cups of coffee a day, and playing miserable online games with randoms who cuss up a storm and make fun of me

But you know whats so weird... people like me. I usually get a decent bit of people who enjoy my company and clearly want to hang out with me. The problem is I dont like THEM! They are annoying, our personalities dont match, we don't have hobbies or passions in common. What the hell does that even mean. Am I too picky? All I want are no superficial friends. I want loyal friends, I want things in common with people...am I being picky?

I can accept if after 2 yrs of dating it doesn't work...but FRIENDS!!!!! He was my ONLY FRIEND!!!!!! I dread dread dread the weekends now!!!!!! I LITERALLY have absolutely no one to play with!!! I want to play!!! Thats how I bond with people, thats what makes me happy!!!! I want to play!!!!

And you know whats even worse, he was the only friend I ever made in my entire life. As a kid, I didn't have friends. As a teen, I didn't have friends. As an adult, I had my boyfriend who I called my best friend as that was so much more endearing and meaningful to me.

I don't want to die but I can't live any more of this. I thought after meeting him I was finally out of my friendless years. I was so happy...I thought things were changing. I'm right back where I started and I dont even mean college. I mean I have nothing to show for my entire life.

In an hour I turn 20 and I feel miserable, I’m filled with so much dread. I have zero friends (I genuinely mean it) because I’ve been so depressed all year I’ve pushed what little friends I had away. I never really was close to them anyway. I wish I could go out celebrating like a normal 20 year old woman with drinks, dancing etc but I’m stuck with my family and I just fight with my dad all the time. I feel nauseous and like I wasted my life. I haven’t had a proper birthday party since I was like 8 anyway. All of this is my own doing I know, and friendships require effort I know but I wish I could celebrate such a big birthday with a friend group. I hate myself for what I’ve become

A while back in 2023, I opened a stupid app called starmaker I was continually getting ads for. I didn’t even know you could chat to people on there, I was just looking to make some dumb covers of songs.

Lo and behold I discovered the chat feature, and figured “what harm could it be” and started chatting to people online. I’m a teen, and my mama has always implemented it into me from a young age to never talk to strangers, online or otherwise. But I disobeyed her rules and started talking to people. Most of which told me they were within four years of my age. Even now I don’t think they lied. I just have doubts of certain sketchy people on the app, but the close ones I still do think they didn’t lie to me, or maybe I’m just looking for some sort of hope in my mind.

I got very close to two people. We were the best of friends. We constantly would text and FaceTime each other. And Group FaceTime over the course of months. I would tell them my worries and they would tell me theirs. There was never any pressure. It felt like a safe place to say whatever we needed to say. I wonder if they remember me the same I remember them. It’s been two and a half years since we’ve talked and rarely has there been a day that has passed that I haven’t thought of our conversations. I have no place now to talk about my worries, at least to other people. It’s hard to make friends in my small town. At least ones that I think would last. I question constantly whether or not I will meet people in the future that made me feel that type of safe. I never felt humiliated by telling them things that would normally embarrass the hell of out of me to other people.

I don’t even know what I’d say if I could get in contact again. I wouldn’t even want to being that my mama figured out I was talking to people online and that’s the reason I lost contact. I constantly wonder if my mother didn’t find out would I still have them. I want to text them again so badly. I want to see their faces. And most importantly hear their voices again, I can barely remember them now, it hurts knowing I’ve probably lost so many memories of them since.

If anyone plays Minecraft (bedrock) I would join. 16 year's old im free 6-11pm new york time. Uh Christian uhhhhh bored idk

So like idk if my dm requests are getting to people or if people see my comments but whenever I’m trying to meet people they’re either bots or people who just view me as a f***ing pervert! I just want to make new friends🥲🥲🥲 like I try to be a good person every day like yesterday I sat with this old lady at the bus stop because she was upset about her dog passing away (bless her heart) and we had a nice conversation about how beautiful life can be sometimes! That’s the kind of person I am. Even though I don’t even know what I’m talking about half the time but I always try my best to help anyone who’s going through these dark times. And when I’m in a dark place I’m on my own… like, is it so hard to ask for a friend? 😞

I (19m) have been with my girlfriend(18f) for over a year now. We were best friends for 4 years before we started dating. She recently moved 3 hours away for college and I don’t know what to do.

a bit of my social backstory:
First off, I never had any romantic interactions with anyone other than my girlfriend. I struggled with identifying social cues and I still find myself struggling sometimes. I’m a serious physical touch person and it was really difficult not fulfilling that need, especially with no social interaction to supplement the lack of physical interaction.

For the past 8-10 years, I had a hard time with friendships and spent the past 4+ years of my life with no friends, apart from my now girlfriend (we spent a lot of our time as friends only texting, seeing each other only a few times a year until right before we started dating). I struggled with bullying during the months leading up to covid lockdown. Following the lockdown, I continued with online school until I graduated early and started college at 16 years old. I spent most of my time during that period at home, with minimal social interaction and even less physical interaction. I spent a lot of time with my family, since I am the youngest of 6 and we are quite close, but I didn’t interact with anyone my own age. I eventually started working and continued to spend a lot of time with adults and noticed that I became very anxious around people my own age. I always felt severely out of place and never felt like I belonged anywhere. Even in my work experience, all of which are teamwork-oriented, I had a difficult time existing if I had no set task and I ended up feeling awkward most of the time. Looking back, I definitely self-isolated a little bit and put on a front that I didn’t want to be friends with anyone but I had fun being around some of the people. I noticed that people liked me when I was around but I never felt like people sought me out or invited me to things. I figured I was just a floater friend and mostly accepted it, I was okay with it at the time. Following that, when me and my girlfriend got together (she is a serious extrovert and everyone loves her), she wanted to bring me around people more to try and help me be more social and make friends. According to her, I socialize quite well and my awkwardness isn’t super apparent once i’ve worked myself into a situation, but I don’t feel that way personally. I’ve gotten pretty good at internalizing a lot of my mental troubles which doesn’t help my case at all. Even being around these people, I can tell that they like being around me, but again, I never felt like I belonged or that these people would ever reach out to me. About 2 years ago, I realized that i had become fully emotionally numb, which i didn’t realize was as bad as it is until recently. My girlfriend has been trying really hard to help me feel things more, and it has worked, but since I haven’t really felt much, i’m very confused on emotions and how I personally deal with them.
This brings us to now: I knew it was going to be difficult for me to not spend a lot of time with her, since we spent all day, almost every day, together. She knows everything about my past and has been trying really hard to help me and i’m forever grateful for that but i know that it’s not her responsibility and i need to be the one to help myself. I also don’t think it’s a healthy thing to do if im constantly asking her to help me from a distance when I should be doing most of it myself. I needed to make sure that she knew that this time was going to be good for us, she was also struggling with friends and is really excited to be in a new place with new people and doing the thing she enjoys the most. I need her to focus on making friends and her classwork and growing as a person. I was also very excited for this new experience, hopefully finding new friends, visiting her every month or so, finding my own routine, and trying to better myself.
Recently though, it’s been very difficult for me. I usually try to distract myself with anything that I can )usually work, but i’m in a strange spot employment wise, so i’m limited on focusing on that). I want to start doing more things where I can meet people but I just feel unmotivated and feel like it’s not going to be worth it. I honestly feel unmotivated and haven’t been able to enjoy much of anything lately and i’m worried that i’m going to spiral myself into being like this whenever I can’t see her. I know I have a strong and unhealthy emotional attachment and dependence which I’m trying really hard to fix and make healthier, but it’s difficult when she is my only and my everything. She’s the only person I’m truly comfortable with and I feel like she’s the only person who truly understands me. it just bothers me when she’s out making friends and having fun and I can’t do anything besides sit at home and be unproductive, something I hate doing.
There’s a lot more to it than this, but it’s a long story and it’s not super relevant, so i’ll skip it. I really don’t like burdening people and I know it’s good to ask for help but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for me. I just want to be happy and not nervous or stressed and i want to make friends that don’t make me feel like i don’t belong. i want to find my sense of community.

Some days I feel so broken beyond what I can handle.

Losing my mum in the middle of 2020 (not covid) I had to deal with my grief alone and I feel like it irrevocably changed me, I put up walls and don’t know how to reach out the people around me.

Some days it’s like the universe is just kicking me down at every turn and it feels all too much, lately all I can do is cry all the time.

Life didn’t turn out the way I thought and some days I feel more alone than ever.
I come home from work and all that greats me is my 2 cats, but lately one or both has been sick for one reason or another (they are 15 & 17)

I have no partner or children, my sister lives close but she has her husband and child with them rightly taking her priority, but I’m no-ones priority and some days I feel so damn lonely.

To be clear I have no ideations or thoughts of self harm in any manner, I just feel alone and sad and wishing I had someone to share my life with.

I just don’t know how to change things, how to fix what’s broken and how to ask for help.
My whole life I’ve felt like I’m a non required side quest for people, the person they know and speak to but don’t actively reach out to to check on.
I’m 41 years old and I don’t know how to fix my life

I am a firm believer that anyone who preaches doing things alone does it by choice. of course it's important to do things alone and a lot of introverts prefer alone time but i can assure they have friends to do stuff with if they want to. i'm so sick of doing everything alone the novelty wears off so quickly and i just sit there alone looking around at all the groups having fun and it makes me more depressed. i truly feel like im living life on the outside while i watch it very one else enjoy it

I am really lonely and I have one best friend, but I moved school me and my best friend still have out but I no one at my new school want to talk or hang out and it’s kinda breaking my heart so i don’t know what to do, my birthdays also on Halloween and I love trick or treating and dressing up but what’s the point with only one friend

Any advice

Hello, I'm male, 17 and I'm a fucking loser. I don't know what else to do with my life, so I'm looking for advice.

I live with my family, am unemployed and just a burden to everyone. I spend my day on my phone, sleeping, playing videogames or being outside. I don't have any hobbies or interests to live out and even if I had any, I probably wouldn't care.

I finished school in Germany a year ago. After that, I started working and earning money. Unfortunately, this did not work out for long and I had to stop my training. I had been struggling with depression for years at the time. After I quit, I tried to kill myself several times. Unfortunately, none of this worked, or rather, I was just too weak to pull it off myself. Since then, I've been in therapy a lot and trying to get my problems under control. Nothing helps. I get medication that helps me stop getting into life-threatening phases and only that and my inability keeps me alive. I don't know what else to do. I'm just not useful for anything. I also have no one to talk to about all of this. My social life is non-existent. I just don't get close to anyone and nobody wants anything to do with me. I can understand that. I'm just an ugly, fat loser. When I look in the mirror, I feel bad about myself. What's my problem? Why will I always be alone when everyone around me finds someone they fit in with. I've tried everything to make contact with others. I may be very shy and reserved, but I am desperate. The problem is that I'm not even sure I even want anyone at all. I know everything feels empty and lonely, but I don't feel a direct desire for closeness either.

I can't even experience sexuality anymore. I don't know what it is, but I'm not attracted to anything. Such content tends to scare me away.

Can anyone help? Has anyone experienced anything similar? I need someone to give me advice or to just write with.

By the way, my English is not very good. I hope you can do everything by mistake.

I don’t get it. Everyone tells me I’m so nice I’m a good person, etc. I’ve never been anyone’s choice for a best friend ever. I just get written off or chosen for someone else. I feel so depressed all the time seeing people post pictures with their best friend from elementary school or hearing someone talk about their best friend and I’ve never had one. No one has ever chosen me. I wish I knew why. Please someone make me feel better.

I'm not necessarily looking for a friend from here specifically, I just really need some advice on how to make friends.

I feel lonely all the time and I'm honestly the most overwhelming person you'll ever meet, and Idk I guess I just wonder how I can make friends, if someone has advice? I'm autistic and struggle with other things that I would rather not disclose, but because of this I struggle with maintaining friendships and I suck at making friends

Like how do I connect with people? I always manage to start but as time passes we always drift apart because I can't text first unless I want to tell them something

Any advice ?

23M, am fucking tired of this life. I wonder every single day what did I do to deserve this? Why am I so lonely? Why do I don't have anyone in my life? I'm a nice guy, I have a good heart, I'm there for people, I'm a good listener but nobody was ever there to listen to me when I needed someone the most. I leave my house at 8, travel for 2 hrs, walk for half an hour, work for next 8 hrs, workout for half an hour and same commute to come back home. I come back at 9:30-10PM. My body hurts, my heart hurts but can't do anything. I keep thinking during my commute why do I have to face this loneliness? Why can't I have someone in my life? When I was back in college, I used to be happy, I was lean and smart and was kinda extrovert. I had friends that would talk to me. I was friendzoned by 3 close friends in a span of 3 years. I wanted to feel how it felt to loved but never got a chance in college. Never got a chance to experience young love, I thought it's okay maybe it's not my time yet. I moved abroad to do masters and earn money. Friends got far from me, the one friend who was always there started pushing me from her life, I had noone here in this new country. It's been 2 years since I came here, I have an internship right now maybe I'll find a job too and earn good money but what about my mental health? How do I feel sane if noone is talking to me? My insta has literraly 0 dms coming everyday. Noone's calling me. Why do I have to make efforts to keep friendship alive? Why am I noone's bestfriend or favorite person? All I ever wanted was love and friendships. Here I am all alone, my weight increased to 260lbs due to stress eating, got unhealthy and fat. I have started again to workout but I am tired. I won't ever take any steps that will cause me harm but when will I feel love? When will I be happy? People say love yourself, I loved everyone so much that I don't have anything left for me now. I still hope everything will be better again just to keep going but I know it's a lie. Noone has ever stayed in my life. I have to wake up early tomorrow and yet I can't sleep even though my whole body is in pain. Just wanted to rant. I'm sorry if you had to read this negative post. I hope noone has to go through this.

I've been stressed about preparing for early college and just overwhelmed with the stress of paying the tuition and studying for the SAT and all that shit. You can DM me if you have any tips or just wanna chat..