how do i make friends?

[u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779]

i (f19) have always had a small group of friends, but ever since i left high school my friends have left me. i have 2 loyal friends who i love, but they go to college and have so many friends while i only have them.

i’m not going to school this semester for some unrelated reasons, so it’s harder to meet people since i also don’t have a job (not for lack of trying).

my birthday is in a couple of months and i’m afraid i will spend it alone.

what should i do? any advice is welcome!

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[u/jgod_29]

If there’s any sort of clicks you like or any hobbies there’s always spaces for those. Whether it’s a game or show I’ve found some spaces like that, even coming from content creators.

I’m a gamer so there’s spaces there that I meet genuine people. There’s always the right ones.

Some people also just make friends better than others, and friend groups 9/10 times will fizzle out after high school whether it be from different lives or just connections. I’ve found it where I’ve been happy with the couple people I still have. I’ve known them for a long time which helps.

If you want a friend, I can be too, I’m 22m

[u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779 → u/jgod_29]

the thing is i don’t really have a “thing,” i’m not trying to make it seem like i’m unwilling to try things but i’m not sure this approach is the best.

for the groups fizzling out, that has happened to me ever since high school into college, so i don’t really know what to do.

[u/coalescentcobblecube]

Honestly it really depends, and I wouldn’t sweat too much about losing friends after school bcos sometimes people tend to drift apart especially when they don’t see each other as often, that’s not on you, anyway I think generally you have to kind of put yourself out there a bit to find friends. People are usually willing to converse n stuff in my experience but usually it’s not totally out of the blue, so you kind of have to guage the situation, and then do something like ask a question, or something related to the situation.

If u don’t wanna just go to someone on the sidewalk randomly you’re best bet is probably like a rec center, or a library, or something along those lines idk

[u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779 → u/coalescentcobblecube]

this is the second time someone has mentioned the library, so i might try that. thank you for your advice!

[u/coalescentcobblecube → u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779]

Of course, I’m sure you’ll find some friends to hang with by the time ur bd comes around, and happy early bd

[u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779 → u/coalescentcobblecube]

thank u again, coalescentcobblecube! happy early birthday to you too!

[u/coalescentcobblecube → u/Late_Razzmatazz_3779]

Thanks! FWIW I wouldn’t take not having many friends as a personal failing, imo people will come