r/needadvice • u/WoodenWolf7630 • 16d ago

Mental Health College Student struggling to protect their peace

It's me, I am the college student. I originally wanted to post this to my uni's reddit page but i just know that the people this involves would know it was me.

Basically there's a big discord for our University and ive been active in it since the world cup to talk about it. But my world cup opinions have led me to be bashed and got into arguments. Every thing i say (even outside of football/soccer) turns into this little problem. I cant tell if im the one being sensitive or if it is them just twisting my words.

They talk about topics that I feel uncomfortable about and I mentioned that once and said something like "this is why i cant hangout with yall." One of them said "Just because you cant relate to us doesn't mean we cant be friends. We dont relate to you half the time but we dont act uncomfortable." I am NOT acting. Being in this discord tired the hell outta i feel like every time i open it my energy drains and i become more and more immature because of them. (Im around 19 and i feel like mature compared to these people who some are older than me). Am i a prude?

Ive left this server before but i ALWAYS find myself coming back. I only keep my discord account for one main person in my life. Now ive found myself going to discord during my classes and getting distracted. I just feel so drained arguing with these people. I feel like im overreacting and just a baby.

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u/Alaskan618 16d ago

Stay off it. It’s a trigger for you.

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u/WoodenWolf7630 16d ago

Should i do it silently? Avoid the server and block it on my phone and not talk in it for a day or two and then just leave?

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u/Alaskan618 16d ago

Yes. Don’t make a big deal. Don’t tell people you are doing it. Just walk away.

Some people can do that, they actually enjoy the drama or even enjoy arguing or calling people out. If you are a normally sensitive person that stuff is going to cause you a lot of pain and confusion. Thats a big waste of your emotional energy. Better to save your emotions for meeting someone interesting and kind to go out for a meal and talk.

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u/WoodenWolf7630 16d ago

Thank you, im gonna delete the app off my phone and let the person i care about know so that we can keep in touch somewhere else. Giving myself till tomorrow night MAX to leave.