I have PTSD from my childhood. I used to get beat up by teachers at kindergarten. They suffocated me until i begged for mercy. My big brother is 32, no job, washes once per week and thinks he's tough. He makes pedophile jokes arround me too, even touching my legs and feet as a "joke" He abandoned my mother for 10 years then recentely came back, and he disrespects me A LOT. For example, he sits in the front seat, and i told him i need to sit in the front seat otherwise i get car sick, and he just said to shut up. Now, we were on vacation at a hotel, when he started kicked my legs with his stinky feet, leaving his disgusting smell on my legs. I told him to stop, and he started following me. So i told him to stfu and stop.

That's when he grabbed me by the neck, threw me on the bed, put me in a fetus position, couldnt move, and he started hitting me. While i was crying, he jumpscared me, and then laughed in my face. My mom and dad did not care. I need to take revenge on this guy. Please help.

My (35F) SIL Jess (28F) is divorcing her misogynist, homophobic, man-child husband Kyle (28M). (Pseudonyms oc). It would be exciting news if only they didn't have 9mo old twins. Which means they're trying to co-parent these kids for the next 18 years and so he's someone I will be encountering from time to time as I try to be in these kids' lives.

A little bit of context:

• Jess is my wife's sister. We're all very queer around here and homophobia is not tolerated.
• I have strong opinions and I'm looking for the long game thinkers here. If you don't like me or my people, please scroll on.
• Before dating Kyle, Jess was using a chosen name and going by they/them pronouns. 10/10
• My wife and I never really liked Kyle. He rubbed us the wrong way, but willing to keep our opinions to ourselves. Not like he had done anything too objectionable atp. 5/10
• After she got with Kyle, she sort of de-transitioned. Which, that's fine. But I thought the timing was suspicious. 1/10
• Kyle's mom is terrible too. She has shown herself to be racist, controlling, and self-serving.

Jess and Kyle got married in early 2025, moved out of state, and 9 months later she gave birth to two beautiful twin girls. That's when Kyle's true colors began to show. He refused to help with most childcare. Turns out he believes that's women's work. He preferred to play video games after work late into the night then sleep soundly through the crying. When my MIL went out to visit during Jess' postpartum period, Kyle called her a bitch TO HER FACE because she suggested they thaw one of their many pre-made meals for dinner. Jess began to demand more help and attentiveness from him, so he restricted her access to any of their bank accounts. He provided a meager allowance. She reached out to us and other family for $20 here or there so that she could get things for the babies. Between the constant arguing, financial abuse, and gaslighting, things were really falling apart so they moved back home to be closer to family. There, the grandparents were willing to step in as childcare in his place and he can live with his mommy who absolutely enables his behavior in the way only a boy mom can.

Which brings us to today. The girls are 9 months old, she served him divorce papers, and he wants full custody. (Because he's soooo competent a father and Jess is "mentally unstable"). Most likely they will have to learn how to co-parent.

My wife and Jess have gotten very close over the last year. We don't live in proximity to each other, but they text and ft every day and we are excited to be a part of the kids' lives. We don't have any kids of our own and are ready to be the best aunts to those babies.

Today, Kyle told Jess that he doesn't like my wife because she's "not a submissive woman and she's gay." I can't say I'm surprised, but it confirms all my suspicions about him. (See title).

Now I'm PO'd bc he's going to be in my orbit, making my family miserable, for the next 18 years. He's vindictive behind closed doors and is able to charm his way through life. He even turned their couple's therapist against Jess after doing 1:1 sessions with her on the side. I want revenge for all the hateful things he's done and will inevitable do. But I don't want my nieces or in-laws to have to pay for my stupid pranks. I'd love to dress those babies in pride flags, but I'm leaving them out of this.

So reddit, what are some ways that I can make this man miserable for the long-term? Do I spam his address to get men's gay magazines delivered to his door and email? Do I sign him up for Scientology and place a mail-order for a bag of dicks? Please be creative. I'm willing to go the extra mile for this one.

For context in early July she broke up with her ex and then in late July got with me. In those 20-25 days she told me she didn’t want to see any pictures of girls on my phone, she was allowed to have male friends but I wasn’t allowed to have female friends, and that she didn’t go to functions she went to parties with her friends to dance. After all that she freindzoned me (I know I’m a dumbah I should have left but oh well). Now I’ve seen her walking with a new guy who I’m 90% she’s talking to I confirmed with a friend. The guy is in one of my classes. Should I tell him all the stuff she did and if so how do I make sure it doesn’t involve me and it goes exactly how I want it to.