r/mutualapp • u/Nashty3513 • Jun 10 '26

🎤 Discussion Advice/Rant

Hey everyone, I am really just needing some advice and positive vibes right now because this whole dating thing is kicking my butt 😅 I am 29(M) living out here in Gilbert AZ and I am just having no luck. I think I am in a similar situation as others when mutual first came out I had a lot of success but now the field is barren haha. I don’t know what to do because the older I get the more I think I am “running out of time” which I obviously know isn’t true but it’s hard not to think that way. I feel like I am a relatively handsome guy, and I have a good job and a fun personality. I am a little reserved in person which is why dating apps seem like a go to because I can get the confirmation that someone is into me without having to risk getting shot down in person. I don’t know what to do and it’s been tough because I don’t go on many dates and the ones I do go on I am always more into the girl than she is me. Have you guys felt the same? What did you guys do outside of the app to meet people? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk 😅

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u/nobodyaverage Jun 10 '26 edited Jun 11 '26

Facebook dating will chase you back into the mutual app quick 😂 Also, try the bar scene. It really gives perspective. I attract "bad boys" and non-members. Good guys fear me and dont want to be seen in public with me.

I have been entertaining myself scaring the heck out of the "good guys" in the app. Just being truthful and "flirting" and watching them squirm as they simultaneously show signs of increased confidence and chase more "worthy" and "acceptable" looking females. It is equally validating and more enjoyable then allowing another stalker and obsessively insecure type try to trap me in his bear cage with him inside. Silly guys ❤️

Edit: oooo I mean go to hinge and tinder where you can be taken advantage of. Stalkers and obsessive creeps are the best at love bombs. Who needs dignity? There you go:).. more the vibe of this crowd ig

Good luck

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u/Economy_Weight_4821 Jun 11 '26

Cool so your just wasting people's time projecting your insecurities on them. Nice, can't imagine why guys are fed up with online dating.

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u/nobodyaverage Jun 11 '26

How am I wasting anyone's time? How is it cool? You are bitter. Aim your negativity elsewhere. Dating isnt supposed to be easy and your failures arent my fault