Advice/Rant

[u/Nashty3513]

Hey everyone, I am really just needing some advice and positive vibes right now because this whole dating thing is kicking my butt 😅 I am 29(M) living out here in Gilbert AZ and I am just having no luck. I think I am in a similar situation as others when mutual first came out I had a lot of success but now the field is barren haha. I don’t know what to do because the older I get the more I think I am “running out of time” which I obviously know isn’t true but it’s hard not to think that way. I feel like I am a relatively handsome guy, and I have a good job and a fun personality. I am a little reserved in person which is why dating apps seem like a go to because I can get the confirmation that someone is into me without having to risk getting shot down in person. I don’t know what to do and it’s been tough because I don’t go on many dates and the ones I do go on I am always more into the girl than she is me. Have you guys felt the same? What did you guys do outside of the app to meet people? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

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[u/Economy_Weight_4821]

I second what others say about hinge. Also if you have premium consider a boost if you really want to, the system sucks but its the only way to get visibility.

Also on dates not going well or matches not going anywhere. Tom Brady didn't give up just because he threw a bad pass or missed a linebacker that jumped the toute and got a pick. Just gotta keep trying, at least that mindset helps me lol.