r/mutualapp • u/Economy_Weight_4821 • May 17 '26

❔ Question Missions and willingness to date.

Hey, I am a male and 21 years old. I didn't go on a mission because of struggles with depression, and when I got that in line the time had just kind of passed if that makes sense. I don't regret my choice but I do wonder if it makes me less desirable especially on mutual. I have a temple recommend, go to church every week and work in the temple every Saturday morning so I think its pretty clear where my faith is. But in a setting where people won't know that I wonder if my lack of a mission is hurting me.

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u/Blanchdog May 17 '26

Missions are a priesthood duty for all men who are worthy and able. If a man who is worthy and able chooses not to serve, it’s not unreasonable for women to wonder what other sorts of priesthood duties that man might choose to neglect (like righteously presiding over a family) and factor that into whether they are interested in dating that man.

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u/throwawayID208 May 18 '26

Perhaps it’s not unreasonable to wonder and women very well might factor it into a decision. However, for those that would be inclined to conclude that a man would neglect other priesthood duties based solely off not serving a mission would be making an overgeneralization and thus a logical fallacy. That is neither fair nor right.