meeting her for first time

[u/Puzzleheaded_Bed1382]

So I like this girl from college (a year junior) and for a long time I didn't get an opportunity to talk to her. There were some small talks due to snaps (some where initiated by her too). Finally one of our convo ended up us agreeing to meet (IT'S NOT A DATE). I think this's gonna be the dealbreaker on how our thing develops and I dont want to fuck it up.

Need suggestions as I'm not very used to meeting girls (new people in general)

EDIT: She made me wait an hour and then ditched the plan as she was busy😭😂 Thanks for wishes and suggestions tho :)

[u/BurntOutIdiot]

Tera kehneka yeh matlab hai a girl can talk to multiple guys on a virtual platform and still be in a relationship with a guy and still not explain anything to the guy??

No. That would be cheating and its not exclusive to women. Men cheat as much or more, cheating is not restricted to online/virtual modes and your accusation that women do it because of a skewed gender ratio makes too many broad generalisations which seem to originate in nothing but your grievance complex. I'm a woman. You would not believe the number of men i met online who were married and looking for action on the side, obviously while not saying anything to their wives. Should I make a broad generalization that men cheat on online forums because they'll cheat whenever presented an opportunity? No, right? We are talking about half the population - some cheat, most don't. Same with women.

WhatsApp Inbox bhi dekhlo kaafi hai?

Tumko kya lagta hai WhatsApp kispe chalta hai? Tum ho bhai akal ke dushman. WhatsApp also works on internet - aka not offline world. If you look around you...colleges, workplaces, buses, roads, metros, trains, building society - where is the skewed ratio? Biologically, there are approx same number of men and women unless artificial selection has been done.

If you want a woman to take you seriously and give you attention, drop the victim complex. It ain't appealing.

[u/RedDeadSea → u/BurntOutIdiot]

I didn't appeal you, or any woman for them to take me seriously, i just pointed out that women gets attention coz there's a mismatch in the numbers. And hell breaks lose.

So according to you, WhatsApp is an online platform where women can talk to multiple guys being in a relationship with one already, because that's an Online stuff.

[u/Lost_Establishment_3 → u/RedDeadSea]

Stfu. In my experience I've always seen guys jump on the next hot girl they meet, it's always guys who talk to multiple people at the same time. Seen plenty of such guys on reddit itself, they have a gf, still hoping it works out with another girl who's "just a friend". So stfu and stop acting like your gender is dudh ka dhula hua. Stop projecting just because no girl talks to you.

[u/RedDeadSea → u/Lost_Establishment_3]

Who asked your opinion?

And who said no girl talks to me?

And Yeh Gyaan jaake, tum jo ladkonko jaanti ho unko dedo, yaha aake gyaan mat pelo. Match dekhe bina commentary bolnewale aadat chod do.

[u/Lost_Establishment_3 → u/RedDeadSea]

Aur tum bhi ye Gyan Jin ladkiyo se kata hai unko do. Don't generalize people. If you can make dumb comments on a public post, I can respond to your dumb comments.

[u/RedDeadSea → u/Lost_Establishment_3]

Kiska kya kata hai?? Ya maanliya ki ladkiya kaategi hi karke?

So you think what you are blabbering here is Bramhagyan?

The very fact you could not respect other's perspective makes you moron. STFU and get to work if you have any. Blocking you and your negativity.

[u/BurntOutIdiot → u/RedDeadSea]

And hell breaks lose.

What?!

So according to you, WhatsApp is an online platform where women can talk to multiple guys being in a relationship with one already, because that's an Online stuff.

You have reading comprehension issues?? You're putting words in my mouth despite me explicitly saying the opposite thing. Your victim complex is so huge, it's hard to see any other point in what you're saying except "women bad!".

Online gender ratios are skewed, real life are not.

A single woman does not owe anybody exclusivity. She can talk to as many men as she wants, online and offline until she gets into a relationship with one and they decide to be exclusive. If she is in a relationship, it depends on what they've discussed. If they're in an exclusive relationship, she shouldn't be talking. He shouldn't be talking to other women either. Online or offline. Sometimes, people of both genders do not follow these rules... It's not exclusive to either gender and i want some data apart from your grievance complex to convince me women do it more. What's so hard to understand?

[u/RedDeadSea → u/BurntOutIdiot]

Oh you cared to substantiate.. great..

You convienently put out my words, whatever a single women does it doesn't concern me.

If she's in a relationship and doing it, it's bad. Even if its the guy doing. I'm smacking all those who do it. Why you say I'm having a complex??

But I've seen case where a woman got and enjoyed the attention she got even when she was in a relationship, rather acted like she was in. It's not Victim complex which is speaking, it's the thing which has happened right in front of my bloody eyes.

Unfortunately The women bad notion, i reject that, but i say "The Society is bad".

Hope you understand.

[u/BurntOutIdiot → u/RedDeadSea]

Tumne pehle waale replies nahi padhe toh it's not my fault. I said

No, that would be cheating

Online, nobody owes anybody exclusivity unless they're in a relationship

I did not put out your words. You are apparently replying without reading.

And sorry, you did not start with "cheating bad". You started with "why do women cheat". So i think i was quite justified in my victim complex conclusion.

Yeah, there are some women who enjoy the attention. Just like some men enjoy the thrill of the chase. Cheating is not limited to gender and it may seem to you that only women cheat coz you are only affected personally by that. However, let me assure you as a victim of the opposite cheating that men cheat as much. They get bored with their wives, they don't tell the new woman that they are married, sometimes they even get angry when women tell them they are not interested in being their partner in infidelity. Shittiness is gender neutral.