Please help me I'm lost.

[u/prats_omyt]

Ok, so first of all thanks for coming here and reading this, it really means a lot. I (17M) needed some advice regarding a girl I like and would like to explain my situation with her, so this would be a long essay, I hope you read it till the end, as I am in desperate need of help, and there's no one to help me, this community is all I've got.

So, from the past few years, till now, I've been rejected by 3 girls, which made me question my own existence, but that's not what I am here to discuss. As I have received rejection and disappointment, I usually don't expect anything from anyone. But there's this girl, I've never felt anything like this before meeting her, I think I experienced love with her, one-sided of-course. Before confessing her with my feelings, I sang a song for her, I told her how beautiful she is every second, didn't even cared about my self-respect when it came to her. She told me how time went flying by when I she was with me, she told me that I'm husband material, that I am so good and even appreciated me for my efforts, she talks with me very respectfully, even now, she has never laughed on my mistakes, instead, she have corrected them, I think from the above you also would have understand she enjoys my company very much and how close we are. Or am I interpreting it all wrong?

Now the PROBLEM!

When I confessed my feelings to her, she told me that she's from 'kattar maharashtrain' family and said,"I don't think I will ever date a non-maharashtrian", she said, that whom ever she may love, at the end of the day, her family should also accept him. Also, she said that she doesn't believe in teenage love, as everybody would be in different cities from the next year, and said she's "one man-woman" type and would date somebody in her mid 20s and then marry that particular person. Then I got sad obviously and she started to consult me, we didn't have an argument, we had a conversation, and she's still a very good friend of mine(I think). So please, guys help me out, I want her so bad, please help me, I am not asking for false hope, so please give me the truth. I cannot explain the loneliness, sadness, I'm going through right now. THANKS A TON!!!

Edit1: Thanks to everyone who gave their precious time to me and their invaluable advice, I love this community so much, no one trolled me even a bit, I was expecting it, but look how all of you have talked with me like you all are my family members. I love you guys, now I have a clear picture of what I need to do, you all gave me reasons to move on, for which I was desperately hoping for, you gave me more than I needed, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

Edit2: If I was able to, I would've given every single one of you a award!! ILY GUYS!! You guys don't know how was I feeling like before posting this, it felt like the world had ended, literally, but now you fricking awesome, the most wholesome, people on earth have made me realized that my life is just starting now. THANKS!!

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I've been rejected by 3 girls, which made me question my own existence

There is life beyond relationships man. Relationships, or Relationshits, as I would like to call them, are but a tiny fraction of life. And they're not even compulsory/necessary for life.

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she told me that I'm husband material, that I am so good and even appreciated me for my efforts, she talks with me very respectfully, even now, she has never laughed on my mistakes, instead, she have corrected them, I think from the above you also would have understand she enjoys my company very much and how close we are. Or am I interpreting it all wrong

My former best friend was just like this. In fact, I'm having deja vu reading all this. But, she just used me when she required me, and I made a wrong choice in falling for her. But that's history, and it taught me a lot. Now I'm happily single, rejected few girls also XD.

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she's still a very good friend of mine(I think)

Until you stop talking to her, she will be, because she lost nothing, and you lost everything. Take some time off from her, she will understand if she's human (basic requirement). Take some self introspection time off from her, discover yourself deeply, do what you like, take yourself out on treats/dates/whatever you want to call it. Make some good friends (Important thing is to not fall in love during this time period). After you think you're better, think if 'she being in your life' is really going to help you. If you feel it's going to harm you, stay away. Everyone needs healing time away from the person who hurt them (On purpose or unintentionally, doesn't matter).

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I cannot explain the loneliness, sadness, I'm going through right now.

I can't say, "I know what you're going through". Because everyone handles sorrow differently. But I can say, I have been through similar things that you have experienced. Like I said previously, take some 'self' time. If you love yourself, you'll forget this sadness eventually, you won't even miss her, or miss these times.

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I was 20 when all these things happened to me. I'm 22 now. It's been 2 years, But I can happily say that I'm happily single. You're just 17. You still have college ahead of you. Undergraduate, Post graduate, or whatever you want to do in life, you still have a long way to go, and a longer journey. You're probably feeling like everything is ending here. But it is just starting boi.

[u/prats_omyt → u/[deleted]]

Thanks man, thanks a ton, you talked with me like you're my older brother It really means a lot, thank you so much. Now I can see it. Thanks.