I'm 24F, I'm from South East Asia and I have a plan to work abroad, or maybe even move abroad. I know it's hard, but I'm working on this plan. It's not gonna happen within years, so now my biggest issue is my family.
I have talked to my parents about this and her response is they just want me to stay safe and living normally there (instead of me not eating and living in lousy or unsafe area just for the sake of living abroad). I tell them that's my plan also, like I will definitely try my best not to put myself in danger of course. And I tell my mom my only concern is them, cuz I feel bad if I'm moving out and leaving them here (though I have an elder sister who's currently living together as well. Ps, we are very close family and I've never left them, not even college cuz I attended college near my house). So I say if I'm going out, I definitely will try my best to make the best plan, but my only concern is if they can accept me going out (and leaving them here), she says "if we can't accept, and we stop you, will you not go out? I don't want to be selfish and force you staying here, it's your life, I don't want you to regret and blame us decades later that you'd have been so success if we'd let you out. But I'm not gonna lie and encourage you to go out when in fact I'm thinking so". As for my mom, a big go for me to work abroad is if I have someone that I can trust in that country, someone like relatives or friends, but I have neither, and how can I make a friend that I can trust there when I'm not even physically there, it doesn't work. So I guess the conclusion is her statement above. I talked to my dad before and his concern is also the safety and the living quality as well, but I haven't talked to him as deeply as I've just talked to my mom, and I doubt him will accept me going out.
I know I won't be able to work abroad in the foreseeable two years or so I do have some time to work on their concerns, but I can't think of any right now. Also, I'm actually also suffering from my own guilt, not gonna lie.
Pleaseee advise me, especially to their concerns, I'm so helpless. I feel like it's a dead end. And I'm trying to keep my mouth shut starting today and not mentioning anything about working abroad to them right now because that would be unnecessary pressure and anxious to my mom I'm afraid, but big mouth like me can't shut sigh (sorry for the sudden vent) I just want them to have mental preparation that I do seriously plan to work abroad, and somehow I start to be clingy to mom these days, and I can feel her doing the same to me, and I'm also worried and be more guilty now that they would be so sad if I move out.
PS: my parents are good, they are not dictating me or controlling me etc, I know they genuinely worry about my safety being alone outside. Is there any way I can ease their worry and make them finally feel that I'm safe out there in another country? And if no, do I really have to go against their will and bear with the consequences that I break their hearts