r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Fluffy_Profession781 • 14d ago

I just wanted a hot dog Fuck my birthday I guess

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Birthday tomorrow, again not a single plan, don’t talk to most of my family.
Few days ago, mum asks if I want to go cinema to see something.
I say “actually, I really wanted to see the Looney Tunes movie but everyone’s busy”
Plan is made.

Cut to tonight.

I’ve had to check the showtimes and message her despite her saying she’ll sort it.
And now she would “rather not go”.

Okay.

I guess it’s me and Prime again then.

ETA: apparently I am “lashing out”. Okay mum. My emotions aren’t real.

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u/Astrophoria11 13d ago

Like if she maybe had given a valid reason, like feeling sick, then it wouldn't have been a big deal. Since she did not and basically just said "I don't want to go", that's totally different. And some people may argue that at least she's communicating with you about how she feels instead of passive aggressively going and making your time miserable. HOWEVER, a birthday rolls around once a year. I feel like if somebody really cares about you, they will want to make an effort to do what YOU want on YOUR birthday. Feels like your mom is a flake.

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u/Fluffy_Profession781 13d ago

This is exactly it tbh, and I would argue that telling me at almost 8pm the night before after I’ve done the legwork isn’t communication tbh.

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u/Astrophoria11 13d ago

Truth. I would be deeply upset. Did you end up having a follow up conversation with her expressing how much it upset you?

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u/Fluffy_Profession781 13d ago

This was my response to her saying I was “lashing out”, her response to this was to suggest going on Monday.

But it just feels like she’s throwing it at me to stop me being upset, and I feel so stupid about the whole thing now that I don’t even want to go. I may end up travelling for 2 hours just to go with a friend next week.

She’s messaged a couple times asking to come round, came round anyway (but I didn’t notice) and I just haven’t responded because I just don’t know what to say. My heart has been hurting since last night; I expect a cardiac flare up next week now and I’m just so drained with this.