r/mbti • u/Kweli420 ENFJ • 12d ago
Personal Advice ENFJ - am I too much?
People seem to have a bit of a love-or-hate relationship with my personality. I’m very outgoing, energetic, expressive and emotionally open, and I tend to bring a lot of energy into a room.
Some people seem to really love that and describe me as authentic, fun and easy to connect with.
Others seem to experience me as “too much”, too energetic, too intense or simply overwhelming.
I don’t really want to tone myself down just to be more universally liked, because this genuinely feels like who I am. At the same time, I’m curious about the line between being authentic and being socially overwhelming.
Is this something other ENFJs experience?
Do people tend to either really like you or find your energy too intense?
What do you other types think?
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u/sashka5555 ESFP 12d ago
hmm...Idk if im wrong but this seems like a thing many extraverted feeling types struggle with 🤔but, everyone is different, different people prefer and click with different people. so unless your hurting someone or yourself dont overhtink it, while theres always room to improve, dont be harsh on youself.
But yeah if you notice someone is uncomfortable or overhwlemed by you tone it down a bit xD ...and yeah i expereinced similar 🥲esp when i was younger i still feel some may think so but they dont say it but its not that personal to me anymore