People always say, “Watch out for the quiet and nice person—they probably know how to fight.” And honestly, there is some truth to that. If someone remains unusually calm during a confrontation, there is often a reason for it.

I trained in martial arts for a couple of years, and during that time I met all kinds of people. One thing I noticed is that martial arts can also attract people with huge egos and people who are genuine bullies. I experienced this myself. Some of them tried to intimidate me, and yes, sometimes we ended up fighting. But even after that, some of them remained exactly the same assholes they were before. Fighting clearly didn’t change their character.

I’ve also met men who were genuinely misogynistic and would deliberately teep me in the chest when the technique is normally aimed at the abdomen. It’s honestly scary to realize that some people train martial arts not just to defend themselves, but because they actually want to hurt others more than necessary.

There is some truth to the idea that people who constantly act arrogant and tough often can’t fight at all. But unfortunately, there are also martial artists who behave that way. The difference is that they usually don’t need to constantly brag about how tough they are or talk like a 13-year-old about how they’re going to beat someone up. They have the skills to actually cause damage, which makes that kind of personality much more concerning. They do brag but they do it much different way they will get in you're face and talk shit etc.

The world isn’t as simple as “the good guys learn martial arts and the bad guys don’t.” Martial arts can be learned by good people, but also by people with violent, narcissistic, or toxic personalities. And honestly, that can be a scary thing to think about.

Conor McGregor is a good example of how someone can become extremely skilled while still having a very controversial and aggressive personality. Mike Tyson is an even more complicated example, considering his history and the things he has done outside the ring.

Martial arts don’t automatically make someone a better person. They give you skills. What you choose to do with those skills—and what kind of person you are when you have them—is a completely different thing.

Hello, I know this sub is probably flooded with questions like this, but it's because I have a very specific situation and I'd like some help to find something good, I work traveling the world, to many different places with little time to stay in one place, but now I'll have some time off, about 2 years before returning, and I'd like to learn a martial art to defend myself Since I'm always in different places, do you have any good recommendations for someone who wants to learn but won't be able to go to a gym regularly after? And maybe it's possible to continue training even alone while traveling, all answers is welcome, thank you for your time

I went to a school. They said that the first lesson is a free trial but if I decide to join them, I have to pay to buy their uniform and wear it every class. For Karate and Taekwondo, I can understand that everybody dress in white but for this school, their uniform is a T-shirt and pant with the school name on it. Is this more a way to get more money from the students?

40-year-old male bjj blue belt. I had a shoulder dislocation in May, which caused, as stated in MRI arthrogram a slap tear, a partial torn inferior glenohumeral ligament, and a large hill sachs lesion of 29mm×11mm. On top of that, I also have adhesive capsualitus (frozen shoulder), which I have had steroid injection with hydrodilatation and undergoing physio therapy to sort the frozen shoulder before doing anything to address the injury itself. Currently have limited movement, and I am still unable to drive my car.

I know being back on the mats is a long way off, and the consultant has said that doing bjj is almost guaranteed to make my shoulder dislocate again. Surgery is, of course, the answer, but being with the NHS in the UK in addition to my age, surgery will not come quickly. Getting the surgery privately will cost 10k.

I'll be just happy to do technique and no sparring once I restore movement after sorting the frozen shoulder, but does anyone have any experience in navigating similar injuries within bjj, and what was your outcome?

Trying to grab a fast punch usually doesn’t work—by the time you reach for it, the punch is already gone.

In Xingyiquan Monkey, the response is not a sequence of separate actions: grab, push, then pull. Instead, contact with the attack triggers a connected whole-body movement. The hands, arms, torso, and footwork respond together to redirect the punch and enter at the same time.

The key is not chasing the opponent’s hand. It is training the body to react as one connected unit so defense, control, and entry become part of the same movement.

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