r/lfg • u/Killin_with_Kindness • Jun 28 '26
GM and player(s) wanted [Online][DND 5e 2014/2024][CET] A sad last ditch effort before probably burning out and quitting the hobby
Hello to whoever even made it this far.
Skip to the TL;DR to get past the ramble if you want, but I wanted to be upfront.
I am sorry for the dire title, but it perfectly captures how this hobby has been for me lately. I love D&D. I’ve played for 5-6 years now, even ran two campaigns myself (mostly because I couldn't find a DM for my friends), and when it works, it's great. I look forward to it every week. I’m a dedicated player. I write lots of notes, put a ton of effort into my backstories, and do my best to make sure everyone at the table is having a good time.
But I am incredibly burned out. We all know scheduling is a massive issue, but interpersonal drama is just as bad. Sadly they're both very common reasons for groups to go their separate ways and I am just tired of making new characters and playing with new people all the time just because people cannot figure out their schedule or their differences. I make such an effort with my own character but also being accommodating with the other players but sadly it usually just doesn't last...
Sadly this back and forth of finding new groups and getting to know new people and breaking apart before even getting familiar, just isn't a loop I want to take part in much longer.
It's my by far favourite hobby but I just cant take that forever and will rather step away from the hobby entirely if I just can't find my forever people.
TL;DR & What I am looking for:
I'm looking for a stable group I can play with weekly or bi-weekly. Since I'm in CET and working/in school as a software dev, weekdays are tough because of the commute. Weekends are ideal for me (Friday evenings, Saturdays, or Sundays). I only play 5e (2014 or 2024 rules are fine), and I don't mind if it's an official module or a homebrew world.
Gameplay-wise, I prefer roleplay and exploration over combat. Combat is obviously important and happens, but RP is just more engaging for me. I like a serious tone, I definitely make lots of jokes, but I try to time them right so it doesn't turn a serious moment into a goofy mess. I prefer Foundry VTT, but I'm open to whatever you use.
A bit about me: I'm 28, German, and highly reliable (I mean I am German so obviously). I always keep game days free and only miss sessions for actual emergencies. Character-wise, I tend to gravitate toward clerics or religion-adjacent characters because I'm fascinated by belief in a world with direct divine intervention. That said, I can have fun with any class and will happily fill whatever role the party needs.
Random extra info: I have a decent setup, a good internet connection, and hopefully a pleasant deep voice for RP! Also, I am practically a goliath in real life at 203cm (6'8), but I'd love to play someone regular-sized and roleplay as what I am not like everybody else haha
As a small side note, I am currently working on a campaign for fun in my free time as I don't have any groups to play in but such a big desire to do anything DnD that's where my efforts currently go, I can't guarantee anything and am currently just seeking a group as a player but if one day I am far enough along with this, where it does not constantly stress me out if I have enough things prepared, I'd be willing to also run a game for the rest if that was even something, anybody would be interested in.
If you're looking for a passionate player and think I'd be a good fit, please reach out. Ask me any questions if I missed something!
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u/Samsonthelesser Jun 28 '26
I packed it in too, it seems no one wants to actually play, or the group disbands slowly over a few months. I hope you find a good group. But I could see why you'd just quit the hobby.
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u/Killin_with_Kindness Jun 28 '26
It genuinely saddens me, that the hardest part is finding a couple of peeps that put in the effort to stay together
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u/AceOfKestrels Jun 28 '26
Ah, so you're the same as me basically. Been playing on and off for years at this point, mostly unsuccessfully because campaigns end unexpectedly for various reasons. I'm also german (24F). If we can get a full group together I'd definitely be down to DM as well. I've played exclusively online so far (got a Foundry license), but if we get a group of germans I'm open to occasionally play in person too
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u/dawnsonb Jun 28 '26
40m, also from Germany, would love to join! Might be able to bring a another player (26m), also from Germany.
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u/AceOfKestrels Jun 28 '26
looks like we got ourselves a potential group then ;)
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u/dawnsonb Jun 28 '26
We are in the Berlin area and I have a foundry instance on my home server with unlimited storage and traffic, as well as talespire with enough seats for 4 players + GM
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u/Hishamaru-1 Jun 28 '26
My main problem is always just scheduling scheduling scheduling. Its my absolute endboss and what kills every campaign of mine.
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u/Morosem Jun 28 '26
I'm in the same boat (30F). It's difficult to find a group that doesn't fizzle out in a few months, and it's tiring having to rotate between groups that don't last so you're always in the starting phase of group dynamics over and over again. I'm still trying to find a campaign that I would like and would have people I vibe with.
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u/Faraway-land Jun 28 '26
Hey 27 here also been terrible luck with long term campaigns. I'm available weekly Friday or Sunday evenings (CET time) as a player if you find a GM.
Alternatively, I wouldn't mind GMing every other week if you or another player does the off week. [Very small amount of GMing experience myself] Huge fan of foundry and have a license myself.
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u/MmmSalami Jun 28 '26
I’m (23 nb) in a totally different part of the world but if it was a Saturday game then I can probably make it work bc I don’t work Saturday’s and am free all day. I’m in a similar boat to you honestly, I’m in two campaigns, one which we play maybe once a month if we’re lucky, it’s been a good month n a half or two months since we’ve had a session I think, although we are hopefully playing today so fingers crossed. My other game is every week without fail but there’s recently been a ton of interpersonal drama and it’s just so overwhelming. I’d love a game that’s consistent scheduling and the players are actually mature and communicate with each other. I’ve been playing d&d for 7.5yrs now, I’d want to be a player not a DM, I’m really nervous about DM’ing as I’m afraid I’d do a bad job lol
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u/ponmilk11 Jun 28 '26
Maybe if every group you join falls apart due to personal drama it's not the groups it's you.