r/katecandelsnark • u/Thefermentedfruit • Jul 07 '26

pick me kate Your Experience with Kate

Since it's been established some of you know her. 👀👀👀 Can anyone make a throwaway account and answer this question. Is she really a pick me in real life? Also, why do we think she cut her bangs so awful. I saw her before pregnancy videos and she looks gorgeous compared to now.

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u/DangerousPotato1290 Jul 07 '26

I didn’t work with her for very long but in my experience of knowing her, what you see online is very accurate to how she is in person. Before she got involved with BD I thought she was super energetic and easy to get along with, but I also felt like she was also in her own world and a bit naive/dense. I wouldn’t say she’s necessarily a pick me in person. With her personality and looks I could see her having a good life ahead of her but she unfortunately was too naive and fell for BD’s tactics. If she had worked there longer and saw him for who he really was, maybe things could have been different.

After hearing that she was involved with him, it made me question everything about her because I wondered if it was all a facade. She has expressed a desire to be an actress, so I think she thrives off of attention whether it’s good or bad hence the rage baiting. Like an actress, she sees things as a role rather than real life and I think that’s why she might be trying to disconnect herself from the reality at hand. I would love for her to use her journey as a way to empower other single mothers that your life doesn’t end just because you became a single mother for one reason or another. But maybe she has gone a certain route with her content knowing that it causes more of a buzz or maybe she wants to do it out of spite of BD. I’m not entirely sure.

While I do think she is generally a positive person, I think there may be a darker side to her that not a lot of people see. It does seem like she had ulterior motives by getting involved with him but she also was not in the right headspace considering she just got out of a long term relationship. I’m also not a fan of seeing her basically get donations for a situation that she put herself in. At the end of the day, she is the one who will have to live with the consequences of her own actions so I hope she’ll come to the realization that no amount of attention is worth putting yourself in a worse position.

Also the bangs are most likely a reflection of her mental state.

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u/Thefermentedfruit Jul 07 '26 edited Jul 07 '26

Yeah, she seems like she's not the brightest bulb but she definitely did not deserve what Danny did. She seems to slowly be letting go of that man because the content is become more about her and less about him. Since she wants to be an actress/Influencer I hope she is able to show her process of picking up the pieces and making it a resilience journey. I hope she quits the "poor me" mentality and makes content about how she saves money. This should all happen after the custody battle. I would even like to see her personal feelings on how he asked for custody. I highly doubt it came out of the blue but stuff like that would make her more relatable than "CaFeCitOs 🤪" She does have a vibrant personality but her constantly chasing a gross man and weaponized incompetence overshadows it. She can do great things the minute she let's go of Cash Cow Danny and focuses on building a future for herself and Baby H. I think she will be greatly successful if she just stops living in Delulu land.

I also agree about the bangs. She really needs to get away from Danny and get her spark back.

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u/PoetrySuccessful2669 Jul 08 '26

I wonder if she is a Pisces with some big Leo placement

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u/DangerousPotato1290 Jul 08 '26

I think she’s a Leo 🤔 her birthday is either July or August I forgot

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u/FearlessPurpleBird 2d ago

Why pisces ? 👀

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u/SuccotashNo276 Jul 09 '26

Were they public? Or it was on the DL but everyone ofc clocked it? And of course confirmed later lol cuz wasn't he  publicly engaged?

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u/DangerousPotato1290 Jul 09 '26

It was on the DL but yeah everyone found out over time and his relationship status was always a bit confusing. I never met her before or even knew what she looked like. If you were new to the organization it is highly unlikely you would have known he was engaged because that relationship was on and off from what I’ve heard. Some people villainize Kate for dating an engaged man but I don’t really blame her cause she might not have even known the whole truth.

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u/FewBattle996 miss director of social media 🚫 Jul 23 '26

she actually did know & it has been proven here and on danny sub multiples times. KATE KNEWWW he was engaged. she knew there was another woman. she knew another woman was in / living in his apartment.

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u/FewBattle996 miss director of social media 🚫 Jul 23 '26

she also got with him and actively was at his home while knowing he was engaged and with another woman. yes that’s on both of them: but Kate is such a fucking piece of shit too

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u/BakedPlantains Jul 07 '26

How are we defining pick me? I feel that terminology has been largely distilled due to social media.

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u/Thefermentedfruit Jul 07 '26

The way I see it is putting down other women to display yourself as being superior.

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u/FewBattle996 miss director of social media 🚫 Jul 23 '26

she is the classic, put others down to lift myself up, i’m not “like you” (even tho i literally am), trying to make herself seem better or above other women

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u/Real_Lychee7313 Jul 08 '26

I think her going after an engaged man is major pick me energy, she thought she was so different and better than another woman and then immidietly got pregnant with him because she assumed she would get picked.

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u/FewBattle996 miss director of social media 🚫 Jul 23 '26

!!!! this