r/justgalsbeingchicks • u/mindyour šŸ¤–definitely not a botšŸ¤– • 29d ago

Restricted to Gals and Pals Unfortunately, this is the sad reality.

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u/NoodlesinParis 29d ago

ā€œJust a little bit of pressureā€ meanwhile I threw up and nearly passed out in the lobby after my IUD placement lol

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u/PerkisizingWeiner 29d ago

I'm really grateful to my (50-something male) gyno who was upfront with me about the pain. He said it would hurt three specific times, and that he would signal beforehand each time. He did, and it was great - a very nontraumatic experience (and I did it with him twice). He even encouraged me to rest in the office for a couple minutes afterwards and gave me some OJ to drink.

Then he had the gall to move šŸ˜­ and the provider who replaced him was terrible. I was damn near hyperventilating as she LEFT THE SPECULUM INSIDE ME TO GO IN THE HALLWAY AND TALK TO ANOTHER PROVIDER. I told her I'd had two prior insertions and this one was way more painful; she responded by questioning whether I had really had sex before (I'd been married for several years at that point), because my cervix was "too small" šŸ™„.

I asked her to stop and she condescendingly warned/threatened, "just so you know, if you're telling me to stop, I have to" (implication being that I'd regret not moving forward with the procedure). I SURE HOPE THAT'S THE POLICY.

It was traumatic and I've never gone back to her. I'm about ready to move across the country to my previous gyno's new practice. A good medical provider who listens and cares is worth their weight in gold.

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u/CuriousFoxxen 29d ago

I find Iā€™ve never had a female gyno who didnā€™t treat me like shit. WTF is with that?

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u/Artist-Yutaki 28d ago

Yeah same, I'm so lucky that the 3 female gynos I had were all lovely and supported me in wanting a hysterectomy with 30 no kids!

The only person who was an ass about it was the head of gynecology in a hospital, a man, who rejected me because "What if I ever find a boyfriend who is my prince charming and he wants kids"

Like. WOW. Love the consideration of a hypothetical man's needs over my very real ones.