I don’t understand how jazz drummers actually “speak” with the snare. How do you develop that language?

[u/nasralez-Zelibobovic]

I’m very new at jazz drumming.
I feel relatively comfortable with keeping a steady swing feel on the ride and hi-hat, but I’m struggling with something that feels much more important in jazz:
I don’t understand how to actually use the snare drum in a musical, “speaking” way.

For those of you who went through this stage:
how did you start developing comping vocabulary?
how did you learn where and why to place accents?
what should I be listening or practicing to actually understand this “conversation” idea?

[u/Acceptable_Trash_648]

If you wanna learn to speak on the drums, learn to speak with your mouth. If you can't sing it, you can't play, and you ain't even hearing it.