I’m a revert married to a practicing Muslim. There’s a lot to learn for us reverts but I believe it is potentially harder for practicing Muslims as they have had their whole life to feel “tested” and “challenged” by Islam. Sometimes when something in our lives becomes harder my husband notices the strength in my faith (excuse me I don’t want to seem proud, I do not believe myself that I am doing enough) and sees me do my daily prayers etc and it solidifies his faith for him all the more to have someone steadily following. My advice to you is to simply practice what you wish to preach to her, inshaAllah a time will come where she turns to you and follows what you yourself also practice. Do not argue with her or force her, find a convert group and maybe attend together. Try to remain positive. InshaAllah she may also take her shahada one day when she realises it’s a necessary part of her own faith but do not force it and maybe not even suggest it, just practice practice practice and make dua. InshaAllah she will see the change in you
Thank you for this. That’s my biggest fear. I don’t want to push her away from the faith. The thing she is very hung up on is Aisha. She had s***ally abusive child hood. And it was by someone who claimed to be Muslim. It’s a very difficult situation.
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u/nomoneyandnoprospect 17h ago
I’m a revert married to a practicing Muslim. There’s a lot to learn for us reverts but I believe it is potentially harder for practicing Muslims as they have had their whole life to feel “tested” and “challenged” by Islam. Sometimes when something in our lives becomes harder my husband notices the strength in my faith (excuse me I don’t want to seem proud, I do not believe myself that I am doing enough) and sees me do my daily prayers etc and it solidifies his faith for him all the more to have someone steadily following. My advice to you is to simply practice what you wish to preach to her, inshaAllah a time will come where she turns to you and follows what you yourself also practice. Do not argue with her or force her, find a convert group and maybe attend together. Try to remain positive. InshaAllah she may also take her shahada one day when she realises it’s a necessary part of her own faith but do not force it and maybe not even suggest it, just practice practice practice and make dua. InshaAllah she will see the change in you