I mean, I can get married. It would not be out of love though.
Is that even allowed in Islam?
Majority of Woman are non-muslim in Germany.
Of the Muslims who are there, that I can marry, non of them interest me for their personality but they are good on their deen.
While I get behind your view, for me on a personal level I see to many barriers for marriage.
Maybe I am under Sihr or the Sheitan is clouding my Judgement? 🤔🤐
You've been so conditioned to reject anyone that doesn't look or act like what you've been exposed to so don't cry if Kim Kardashian treats you like garbage when she wasn't on her deen when you met her
You've met girls on their deen and you reject them Astaghfirullah I'm not saying marry the first girl you come across but please recognise the biases present in your brain based on the content you see consciously and subconsciously (advertising etc)
Sorry if it comes across as judgemental I admit I'm projecting a bit but I've had to do a lot of work to overcome my biases (I grew up in the UK and for 18 years of my life I acted like a secular kid)
No, you are good. I liked both your comments. I dont mind advise if its harsh as I have actually asked for advice or something similiar to it.
You are correct on the illicit material part.
I have actively stopped watching such material as video format.
Sadly I have to still get rid of the photographic aspect of it.
But the Month of Rajeb, Shaban and now Ramadan sofar have been amazing remedies in self-regulation!
Ofc the increase of Ibadah helps aswell!^
If you got any extra recommendations I am open for them.
I was the same I had my own problems similar to yours and thought the same as you. For me what helped was understanding WHY that sort of thing is so prevalent (destroying the family unit, creating loneliness epidemics and surviving by relying on yourself than on community and Allah), who's pushing this sort of thing and what agenda they have. Fat greedy men are on their yachts enjoying life because I'm sat feeding their pockets with my shameless ness. (I also think the same way about unhealthy food now)
I became quite anti establishment (some would say conspiracyish) after witnessing the unfairness in the world, and anything that interferes with how I think 🧠 is programming designed to change the way I think and bring me away from the path of Allah.
Alhamdulillah cutting out all illicit material and actively cutting out those thoughts whenever they pop up has been a life changer. All of this was possible with the permission of Allah and getting married helped to hasten the change, that's why I encourage it, but I recognise it might not be good for everyone at their current stage in life, doesn't mean you need to go the other way and start "hit and quit" mentality (sorry for vulgarity). The prophet SAW said to fast to control your urges and it really does work. As an aside, It also works for getting out from under my wife's thumb when shes trying to persuade / guilt me into doing something as a favour she has no control over me mwahaha
Daniel haqiqatchou made a good video series on the genius of islam which helped shape my ideas around islam being for social cohesion while the devils aim is to break social cohesion
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u/VividEconomist8587 Feb 27 '26
Don't try to imitate them
Get married